If he follows you into the bathroom, he doesn't sound emotionally detached to me.
He DOES sound like a lot of stuff from the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) could be getting mislabelled.
That therapist - is there anything in his report that is likely to follow you or Eric? if no, then as SRL said, mentally consign it all to the round file. The guy sounds like he was coming out with the classic knee-jerk reaction (with emphasis on "jerk") of a person who is first year out, has no kids of his own AND no personal experience and who is parrotting the rubbish dished out during lectures.
You went back to work and placed him in child care at 5 months? Honey, that kid had bucketloads of time to bond with you.
I was a full-time working mother, went back to work when each of my first three kids were 12 weeks old (10 weeks, with easy child). They were in Long day Care, which meant they were in child care form 8 am to 5.30 pm, five days a week, from less than three months old. They stayed there until they started school, age almost 5, and the school had an after-school program which went until 6 pm. Five days a week.
If the kids were going to have attachment disorder from being dumped in child care, then mine should have had it, well and truly.
Not a trace.
It's the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), for sure. And it is still only a semblance - these kids generally do care, very deeply often more deeply, because it really hurts them sometimes, how much they care. But they don't always show this emotion, in ways that Mr Clever Clogs 1st year out "I know all about kids" therapist would understand.
And what about your other kids? According to this theory they ALL should be showing the same degree of attachment disorder.
If this is a record that will stick, then you need to deal with it by getting another opinion which refutes it. Otherwise, just stick it up on the wall and trow darts at it. it's about all tat report is worth. it certainly is NOT worth you getting upset over it. The world is too full of such idiots as it is, for you to waste any time on just one of them.
Mothers like you and me have quite enough to do, thank you, than have rubbish like this getting in our way.
Think about mothers of the world, including those women who give birth in rice paddies, pick up the baby and just keep right on working in the fields. They swaddle the baby tightly to keep them quiet and pliant. They can't stop working to "bond" either, not in the way this idiot seems to think is necessary.
For most children born into the world, it is this way. So why do we not have a world-wide massive epidemic of attachment disorder? And why, if child care centres that take babies from almost birth are so bad for society, are there more and more of them proliferating?
The guy's an ignorant jerk, barbiealonso. If your child has attachment disorder, it's not because you're a working mother who put him in child care at 5 months.
Marg