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<blockquote data-quote="confuzzled" data-source="post: 437113" data-attributes="member: 8831"><p>there is no such thing as "there are no more resouces". you just havent made the right phone call to the right person yet. i know what it seems like--no help, no nothing is out there and that the thought of *one more phone call* seems impossible, but thats the way it is. sometimes the less tied into the system you are, the harder it is to track down services. it has personally taken me almost 19 years to get a basic need filled and have made more phone calls to agencies/people/insurance companies than you can fathom. in fact, it was almost dumb luck--my contact "lost" my info and as i was getting ready to throw out yet another dead end scrap of paper with a phone number on it, i decided to call *one more time* to see wth happened. </p><p></p><p>that phone call, after all these years, has become a literal life changing event in my world of gfgdom. i had been told no probably 3.974,977 times prior to that day.</p><p></p><p>i'm not pro or con calling cps or juvie, but i am pro calling any benign agencies or people in your state when you can have the mindset that "this is a waste of a day, but what if* (nothing frustrates me more than the buracracy, red tape and dead ends, i think i'm human, lol). i also think you have to make contacts throughout the state, not your region--even if they are wildly unappropriate or too far to be practical, they often have big brains to pick for something more appropriate or closer to home. i literally have a gigantic folder with brochures, business cards, jotted down notes--most of which would never work for us, but you never know. i've been doing it since difficult child 1 was a baby...i'd take brochures from over 21 agencies, transition to work people, miscellaneous equipment vendors, whatever, and i cant tell you just how many times over the years i look through it and go "oh! let me touch base with whomever....it gives me SOME kind of a starting point, if that makes sense. like, even though wee is young, and hopefully you'd never need to know, i'd add stuff like I don't know "SAT prep for the dyslexic" or "Friday Night Teen Night"...whatever. make it an ongoing resource for yourself.</p><p></p><p>and fwiw--if cps intervened in every kids life that comes from assorted unstable stock, there wouldnt be enough acreage in the country to build homes to house them all.</p><p></p><p>i hope you find someone, somewhere that can give you a direction to go it. personally, i call even people who dont seem remotely pertinent to either difficult child's situation--i've called social work depts in every medical facility and every specialty private school in my state, i've sat in on random diagnosis support groups, i've called every number in the blue pages, i've googled to death, and i talk to any parent who even gives off the scent of living in some kind of gfgdom. (local parents are seriously the best resource--they know it all...i once went to a Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) parent group and each parent was sitting there with their agendas out trading resources--legitimate resources, not dead ends--and it was great).</p><p></p><p>for today though, <em>relax.</em> <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="confuzzled, post: 437113, member: 8831"] there is no such thing as "there are no more resouces". you just havent made the right phone call to the right person yet. i know what it seems like--no help, no nothing is out there and that the thought of *one more phone call* seems impossible, but thats the way it is. sometimes the less tied into the system you are, the harder it is to track down services. it has personally taken me almost 19 years to get a basic need filled and have made more phone calls to agencies/people/insurance companies than you can fathom. in fact, it was almost dumb luck--my contact "lost" my info and as i was getting ready to throw out yet another dead end scrap of paper with a phone number on it, i decided to call *one more time* to see wth happened. that phone call, after all these years, has become a literal life changing event in my world of gfgdom. i had been told no probably 3.974,977 times prior to that day. i'm not pro or con calling cps or juvie, but i am pro calling any benign agencies or people in your state when you can have the mindset that "this is a waste of a day, but what if* (nothing frustrates me more than the buracracy, red tape and dead ends, i think i'm human, lol). i also think you have to make contacts throughout the state, not your region--even if they are wildly unappropriate or too far to be practical, they often have big brains to pick for something more appropriate or closer to home. i literally have a gigantic folder with brochures, business cards, jotted down notes--most of which would never work for us, but you never know. i've been doing it since difficult child 1 was a baby...i'd take brochures from over 21 agencies, transition to work people, miscellaneous equipment vendors, whatever, and i cant tell you just how many times over the years i look through it and go "oh! let me touch base with whomever....it gives me SOME kind of a starting point, if that makes sense. like, even though wee is young, and hopefully you'd never need to know, i'd add stuff like I don't know "SAT prep for the dyslexic" or "Friday Night Teen Night"...whatever. make it an ongoing resource for yourself. and fwiw--if cps intervened in every kids life that comes from assorted unstable stock, there wouldnt be enough acreage in the country to build homes to house them all. i hope you find someone, somewhere that can give you a direction to go it. personally, i call even people who dont seem remotely pertinent to either difficult child's situation--i've called social work depts in every medical facility and every specialty private school in my state, i've sat in on random diagnosis support groups, i've called every number in the blue pages, i've googled to death, and i talk to any parent who even gives off the scent of living in some kind of gfgdom. (local parents are seriously the best resource--they know it all...i once went to a Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) parent group and each parent was sitting there with their agendas out trading resources--legitimate resources, not dead ends--and it was great). for today though, [I]relax.[/I] :-) [/QUOTE]
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