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What have i done so wrong to make my adult daughter dislike me so much?
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 650186" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>There are predatory people in the world. It may be a genetic thing. If we have been raised by a predator, we are vulnerable to other predators until we learn to see predators for what they are.</p><p></p><p>I think they do not change.</p><p></p><p>I think they have no capacity for empathy.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>You cannot control anyone but yourself. </p><p></p><p>None of this is your doing.</p><p></p><p>Nothing you can do will change what feels good to your daughter.</p><p></p><p>Your daughter is playing a game, and by remaining emotionally entrenched in it, you are allowing yourself to play, too. </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry for the hurt of it.</p><p></p><p>Your child is abusive. As it is whenever we are involved with an abuser, whether the abuser is a mate, a child, a parent or a friend, <em>we are the ones who must change or nothing will ever change because the abuser set it up to be exactly how he or she wants it to be.</em> </p><p></p><p>Look into what you know of the abuser's past. </p><p></p><p>That is their future, too. If you are still playing their game with them, they will call in the chips and one day, you will be hurt.</p><p></p><p>I think there is not even anything personal in this.</p><p></p><p>I am glad you are posting here to us. There are so many of us here on the site that you will receive many different interpretations of what is happening and how best to survive it.</p><p></p><p>Wishing you well, this morning.</p><p></p><p>I know it is a hard thing to face.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry for the pain of it. You can do this. It will take some time to see clearly where you are, and to come into balance around the changed facts. There is a sadness in acknowledging that someone we love is okay with hurting us and even, meticulously plans to hurt us and takes pleasure in our pain or confusion.</p><p></p><p>But it is better to know.</p><p></p><p>As our Seeking Strength tells us, stay close to the site, now.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 650186, member: 17461"] There are predatory people in the world. It may be a genetic thing. If we have been raised by a predator, we are vulnerable to other predators until we learn to see predators for what they are. I think they do not change. I think they have no capacity for empathy. You cannot control anyone but yourself. None of this is your doing. Nothing you can do will change what feels good to your daughter. Your daughter is playing a game, and by remaining emotionally entrenched in it, you are allowing yourself to play, too. I am so sorry for the hurt of it. Your child is abusive. As it is whenever we are involved with an abuser, whether the abuser is a mate, a child, a parent or a friend, [I]we are the ones who must change or nothing will ever change because the abuser set it up to be exactly how he or she wants it to be.[/I] Look into what you know of the abuser's past. That is their future, too. If you are still playing their game with them, they will call in the chips and one day, you will be hurt. I think there is not even anything personal in this. I am glad you are posting here to us. There are so many of us here on the site that you will receive many different interpretations of what is happening and how best to survive it. Wishing you well, this morning. I know it is a hard thing to face. I am so sorry for the pain of it. You can do this. It will take some time to see clearly where you are, and to come into balance around the changed facts. There is a sadness in acknowledging that someone we love is okay with hurting us and even, meticulously plans to hurt us and takes pleasure in our pain or confusion. But it is better to know. As our Seeking Strength tells us, stay close to the site, now. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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