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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 391142" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am sorry things are so bad. I truly understand your fear. What does she do to abuse the younger children? Before this meeting on Monday, take the 2 children to the pediatrician (even if you have to just go to the clinic hours on the weekend, or call the pediatrician if you are friends) and discuss the abuse. Ask for a referral to a psychologist and psychiatrist to help them deal with the abuse. Have the kids tell the pediatrician about the abuse. Then ASK THE pediatrician TO REPORT THIS. The pediatrician is REQUIRED to report abuse of a child, even if done by a sibling (regardless of the age of the sibling).</p><p> </p><p>This will bring the safety and well being of your younger children into question. By ASKING the pediatrician to make the call to report the abuse, you are PROVING that you are a good mom. You are protecting your young children. You MUST protect them from all harm, even if that harm comes from a sibling. </p><p> </p><p>Then when you go into the meeting you will be able to say that your daughter CANNOT RETURN because she is a danger to the younger children. She has abused them, it has been reported, and it would be irresponsible of you to allow their abuser back into your home to live with them. It would traumatize them further. </p><p> </p><p>By taking them to the doctor for a referral to a psychologist and/or psychiatrist to help them cope wtih the abuse, you are showing that you are taking steps to provide appropriate care for them after abuse, yet another sign that you are a good mother.</p><p> </p><p>You must tell the people at the meeting that you are afraid of your daughter, and likely why. Other than fear for the other kids. State the reasons you are afraid, what your daughter has done to make you think that she would kill you or hurt you. Also express concern for your oldest daughter. You want her to get HELP, and to have a safe place to live that can meet her needs, keep her safe, and also keep the family safe from her, esp the younger children. You have no choice but to say that she cannot come home, because the abuse of the younger children, but you want to be sure she is in a good place and is safe adn well cared for. </p><p> </p><p>The goal is often reunification of parent and child, and you need to make sure they know that you want reunification IF and ONLY IF she can get the help she so desperately needs. Be calm, be firm that she cannot come home because it is not safe, and insist on what you know, and feel in your gut, is right. There is likely a loophole that would let you put her in foster care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 391142, member: 1233"] I am sorry things are so bad. I truly understand your fear. What does she do to abuse the younger children? Before this meeting on Monday, take the 2 children to the pediatrician (even if you have to just go to the clinic hours on the weekend, or call the pediatrician if you are friends) and discuss the abuse. Ask for a referral to a psychologist and psychiatrist to help them deal with the abuse. Have the kids tell the pediatrician about the abuse. Then ASK THE pediatrician TO REPORT THIS. The pediatrician is REQUIRED to report abuse of a child, even if done by a sibling (regardless of the age of the sibling). This will bring the safety and well being of your younger children into question. By ASKING the pediatrician to make the call to report the abuse, you are PROVING that you are a good mom. You are protecting your young children. You MUST protect them from all harm, even if that harm comes from a sibling. Then when you go into the meeting you will be able to say that your daughter CANNOT RETURN because she is a danger to the younger children. She has abused them, it has been reported, and it would be irresponsible of you to allow their abuser back into your home to live with them. It would traumatize them further. By taking them to the doctor for a referral to a psychologist and/or psychiatrist to help them cope wtih the abuse, you are showing that you are taking steps to provide appropriate care for them after abuse, yet another sign that you are a good mother. You must tell the people at the meeting that you are afraid of your daughter, and likely why. Other than fear for the other kids. State the reasons you are afraid, what your daughter has done to make you think that she would kill you or hurt you. Also express concern for your oldest daughter. You want her to get HELP, and to have a safe place to live that can meet her needs, keep her safe, and also keep the family safe from her, esp the younger children. You have no choice but to say that she cannot come home, because the abuse of the younger children, but you want to be sure she is in a good place and is safe adn well cared for. The goal is often reunification of parent and child, and you need to make sure they know that you want reunification IF and ONLY IF she can get the help she so desperately needs. Be calm, be firm that she cannot come home because it is not safe, and insist on what you know, and feel in your gut, is right. There is likely a loophole that would let you put her in foster care. [/QUOTE]
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