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<blockquote data-quote="welcometowitsend" data-source="post: 601683" data-attributes="member: 14356"><p>Barbara and RE - You two are so wise and have learned so much from your experiences. It is wonderful that you both share so much with the rest of us. </p><p></p><p>What have I learned? (Not really coping strategies but these things have made me stronger)</p><p></p><p>To expect that I will have good days and bad days. And sometimes my bad emotional days come when things are good. I have a tendency to be able to hold things together when things are in a crisis mode or really difficult and then when things are calm and good I have my moment where I fall apart. (I had one of these just last week. I cried all day. Just had to let it go...then I took a nap. And things with difficult child have been good lately)</p><p></p><p>To come here for support and information. This board has been so invaluable to me! </p><p></p><p>To listen to the professionals when they give me advice. They do not know my child but they have dealt with so many families going through crisis and so many difficult child's that they likely know more than I do and I need to respect that. So I need to take that information in, let it sit with me, ask if I can do what they are suggesting, am I ready for it?, am I able to hold that line?, and then knowing my son.... is that truly what he needs based on his personality and who I know him to be deep down inside?</p><p></p><p>To seek that professional help whether it's a support group, therapy or classes.</p><p></p><p>I've learned that it's ok to live a normal life, it's ok to go on in the midst of the chaos and pain that difficult child can create, it's ok to laugh, it's ok to have a calm, peaceful, anger free day. I've learned that I have the right to take that for myself, easy child and husband. That we deserve to have happiness despite that fact that difficult child is not happy and not well. So, I make that choice to do that. </p><p></p><p>Meditation helps, exercise helps, getting enough sleep helps, sometimes just losing myself and zoning out on pinterest or watching tv helps too. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> </p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/smile.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":smile:" title="smile :smile:" data-shortname=":smile:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="welcometowitsend, post: 601683, member: 14356"] Barbara and RE - You two are so wise and have learned so much from your experiences. It is wonderful that you both share so much with the rest of us. What have I learned? (Not really coping strategies but these things have made me stronger) To expect that I will have good days and bad days. And sometimes my bad emotional days come when things are good. I have a tendency to be able to hold things together when things are in a crisis mode or really difficult and then when things are calm and good I have my moment where I fall apart. (I had one of these just last week. I cried all day. Just had to let it go...then I took a nap. And things with difficult child have been good lately) To come here for support and information. This board has been so invaluable to me! To listen to the professionals when they give me advice. They do not know my child but they have dealt with so many families going through crisis and so many difficult child's that they likely know more than I do and I need to respect that. So I need to take that information in, let it sit with me, ask if I can do what they are suggesting, am I ready for it?, am I able to hold that line?, and then knowing my son.... is that truly what he needs based on his personality and who I know him to be deep down inside? To seek that professional help whether it's a support group, therapy or classes. I've learned that it's ok to live a normal life, it's ok to go on in the midst of the chaos and pain that difficult child can create, it's ok to laugh, it's ok to have a calm, peaceful, anger free day. I've learned that I have the right to take that for myself, easy child and husband. That we deserve to have happiness despite that fact that difficult child is not happy and not well. So, I make that choice to do that. Meditation helps, exercise helps, getting enough sleep helps, sometimes just losing myself and zoning out on pinterest or watching tv helps too. :) :smile: [/QUOTE]
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