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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 60278" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Kjs, I had to work full-time when my three oldest were little. I was back at work after each birth, at 12 weeks. It was hard, especially with my first because I worried that someone else would be giving her the love I wanted to.</p><p></p><p>But I needn't have worried - it turned out that I still got to spend a lot of time with my kids, but it was quality time. We didn't have a house to clean up because we'd been out all day. They'd messed up at the child care centre and someone else had cleaned up. On the way home we would sing songs, we'd talk, we'd sometimes stop and buy some food (I knew they'd had a healthy lunch) and we just had fun together.</p><p></p><p>And during the day, I got to talk with adults at work and not feel my brain melting every time I watched another kids' show on TV.</p><p></p><p>If you make sure that the time you spend with your kids is really focussed on them, and on you both sharing good time together, you will be doing at least as well, if not better, than someone who is there physically, but distracted. Whether you're home with the kids all day or at work, you need to make special together time available with your kids.</p><p></p><p>My sister rang me today - she's babysitting her 20 month old grandson for the weekend and loving it. As she was about to hang up she said, "We're about to go to the park. I love taking my grandchildren to the park. It's just at the end of the street. But do you know, their parents never take them? They're too busy during the week at work."</p><p>"What about weekends?" I asked. I used to go to the park with our kids on weekends.</p><p>"I think they just don't get around to it," she told me.</p><p></p><p>Very sad.</p><p></p><p>There is no doubt that my nephew and his wife love their two kids, but it is sad that their visits to the park are only with Grandma.</p><p></p><p>As I've said often (and also to some sleazy men who brag) - it's not what you've got, it's what you DO with what you've got that counts. </p><p></p><p>And that includes your use of time.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 60278, member: 1991"] Kjs, I had to work full-time when my three oldest were little. I was back at work after each birth, at 12 weeks. It was hard, especially with my first because I worried that someone else would be giving her the love I wanted to. But I needn't have worried - it turned out that I still got to spend a lot of time with my kids, but it was quality time. We didn't have a house to clean up because we'd been out all day. They'd messed up at the child care centre and someone else had cleaned up. On the way home we would sing songs, we'd talk, we'd sometimes stop and buy some food (I knew they'd had a healthy lunch) and we just had fun together. And during the day, I got to talk with adults at work and not feel my brain melting every time I watched another kids' show on TV. If you make sure that the time you spend with your kids is really focussed on them, and on you both sharing good time together, you will be doing at least as well, if not better, than someone who is there physically, but distracted. Whether you're home with the kids all day or at work, you need to make special together time available with your kids. My sister rang me today - she's babysitting her 20 month old grandson for the weekend and loving it. As she was about to hang up she said, "We're about to go to the park. I love taking my grandchildren to the park. It's just at the end of the street. But do you know, their parents never take them? They're too busy during the week at work." "What about weekends?" I asked. I used to go to the park with our kids on weekends. "I think they just don't get around to it," she told me. Very sad. There is no doubt that my nephew and his wife love their two kids, but it is sad that their visits to the park are only with Grandma. As I've said often (and also to some sleazy men who brag) - it's not what you've got, it's what you DO with what you've got that counts. And that includes your use of time. Marg [/QUOTE]
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