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<blockquote data-quote="cakewalk" data-source="post: 296315" data-attributes="member: 7060"><p>That's why I called her Pollyanna. I'm not buying it all either. Everything addressed by all of you has been addressed between my husband and I at some point since February. Never has she encouraged a relationship between me and him. She continued to take him in against my wishes. The few times I've spoken with her, or my husband has, she always took difficult child's side. Her response has always been, "If that happened...." I told her back in March to get police reports, get the CPS files, talk to easy child, and I'd even give her approval to speak with the family counselor. I reiterated there is NO "if" in this situation. </p><p></p><p>Was he on drugs? I'm not sure. His behavior certainly seemed like it on many occasions. Not professionally diagnosed means that the family counselor said he needed to diagnosed and difficult child said we'd have to take him away in handcuffs before that happened, which the counselor said, "Let's do it." He ran away whenever the going got tough. My sister said to me in February, "Your counselor's rules aren't working." But, they were! And they would have had she NOT continued to open her door to him.</p><p></p><p>I don't agree with the way my sister handled anything. Remember, she guaranteed my husband that difficult child would be in counseling back in February. After 4 months in her care, no counseling. That's why I took control of the issue when he wanted the forms signed. He is now with a therapist with 20 years experience at a Residential Treatment Center (RTC). (The counselor is now with a Christian counseling practice but his credentials are the same.) Is he being diagnosed? I don't know. I have to admit that I never expected him to come home. When the question on the counseling form said, "What do you expect the outcome of your child's therapy to be," I did not state that "My son come home." My hope for therapy that I wrote on the form was that my son be able to function in society as a healthy, mature individual who learns to control his temper and make wise choices (or something like that.) </p><p></p><p>My difficult child has run the show over there. I know it. I was in weekly contact with all of his teachers. I kept a very close eye on his grades... they plummeted in her care (her kids are all 3.9 - 4.0 students, why did she lower the bar for my difficult child?) Has he ever been told no? There's 50 other things that don't make sense in this equation. </p><p></p><p>Pollyanna is probably at the hospital right now getting her arm in a cast since I'm sure it was severely dislocated patting herself on the back when we spoke today. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" /> Will she communicate with me in the future? Heaven's no! She didn't communicate with me when my son was living there since February.</p><p></p><p>In one of my first posts in joining this board, I said my family was toxic and it was healthier for me to NOT be a part of them. I know a lot doesn't make sense. I've been involved in this dysfunction for 40+ years. It still doesn't make sense to me either.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="cakewalk, post: 296315, member: 7060"] That's why I called her Pollyanna. I'm not buying it all either. Everything addressed by all of you has been addressed between my husband and I at some point since February. Never has she encouraged a relationship between me and him. She continued to take him in against my wishes. The few times I've spoken with her, or my husband has, she always took difficult child's side. Her response has always been, "If that happened...." I told her back in March to get police reports, get the CPS files, talk to easy child, and I'd even give her approval to speak with the family counselor. I reiterated there is NO "if" in this situation. Was he on drugs? I'm not sure. His behavior certainly seemed like it on many occasions. Not professionally diagnosed means that the family counselor said he needed to diagnosed and difficult child said we'd have to take him away in handcuffs before that happened, which the counselor said, "Let's do it." He ran away whenever the going got tough. My sister said to me in February, "Your counselor's rules aren't working." But, they were! And they would have had she NOT continued to open her door to him. I don't agree with the way my sister handled anything. Remember, she guaranteed my husband that difficult child would be in counseling back in February. After 4 months in her care, no counseling. That's why I took control of the issue when he wanted the forms signed. He is now with a therapist with 20 years experience at a Residential Treatment Center (RTC). (The counselor is now with a Christian counseling practice but his credentials are the same.) Is he being diagnosed? I don't know. I have to admit that I never expected him to come home. When the question on the counseling form said, "What do you expect the outcome of your child's therapy to be," I did not state that "My son come home." My hope for therapy that I wrote on the form was that my son be able to function in society as a healthy, mature individual who learns to control his temper and make wise choices (or something like that.) My difficult child has run the show over there. I know it. I was in weekly contact with all of his teachers. I kept a very close eye on his grades... they plummeted in her care (her kids are all 3.9 - 4.0 students, why did she lower the bar for my difficult child?) Has he ever been told no? There's 50 other things that don't make sense in this equation. Pollyanna is probably at the hospital right now getting her arm in a cast since I'm sure it was severely dislocated patting herself on the back when we spoke today. :angry: Will she communicate with me in the future? Heaven's no! She didn't communicate with me when my son was living there since February. In one of my first posts in joining this board, I said my family was toxic and it was healthier for me to NOT be a part of them. I know a lot doesn't make sense. I've been involved in this dysfunction for 40+ years. It still doesn't make sense to me either. [/QUOTE]
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