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What is the best way to take away the video games for a 17-year-old?
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 501635" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Otto - your post made me laugh. I have a close friend with a son who is High-Functioning Autism (HFA) or Aspie and spent years following people around chattering about presidents. One of his friends would look him in the eye and say "I AM NOT LISTENING TO YOU. I AM DOING X" where X was a lot of different things including talking with other people and it NEVER fazed him. He just kept following her and chattering. Or he followed his mom or siblings around their home or wherever. He was homeschooled partly because this would NEVER have stopped at school. Now? He has stopped it, but it still brings back memories. </p><p></p><p>I found the same things happening with Wiz when we eliminated video games/D&D/pokemon. I got a LOT of grief for cutting out his coping techniques. But for Wiz it was NOT coping it was addiction and hiding. The rule was that if you will lie, cheat or steal to play a game/get fantasy stuff/have an object, then it is an unhealthy influence and it goes. Period. My gut told me that for MY kid it was important. And it WORKED. We didn't have kinect or Wii because they didn't exist. So we just locked them in a storage unit.</p><p></p><p>Lourdes, it really sounds like your son is addicted to videogames. Not that he uses them as coping, but that they are his drug of choice. More and more people in the addiction treatment world are seeing people with true video game addiction and attempting to get them into treatment. It challenges our concepts of addiction, but videogames stimulate the areas of the brain that other drugs also stimulate, or some of the research I ahve seen says this. You may need to take that into consideration also. They even did an episode of the show "Intervention" on a boy who was addicted. Please do some research on this before you just unplug him. in my humble opinion you need to get some professional help involved before you cut off his videogames. There is more going on than just a hobby.</p><p></p><p>Does he have bills? Who pays for the gaming? What would happen if he had to get a job to pay for the gaming? Have you ever told him that he has to have a job if he wants to play games because he must pay for them? It is one strategy to think about and to ask the professionals to help you with. </p><p></p><p>I KNOW it sounds like this "trivializes" addiction, even can sound silly to some. But if addiction is a disease, caused by a substance that creates a specific feeling, why can't videogames also stimulate the brain to cause that feeling?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 501635, member: 1233"] Otto - your post made me laugh. I have a close friend with a son who is High-Functioning Autism (HFA) or Aspie and spent years following people around chattering about presidents. One of his friends would look him in the eye and say "I AM NOT LISTENING TO YOU. I AM DOING X" where X was a lot of different things including talking with other people and it NEVER fazed him. He just kept following her and chattering. Or he followed his mom or siblings around their home or wherever. He was homeschooled partly because this would NEVER have stopped at school. Now? He has stopped it, but it still brings back memories. I found the same things happening with Wiz when we eliminated video games/D&D/pokemon. I got a LOT of grief for cutting out his coping techniques. But for Wiz it was NOT coping it was addiction and hiding. The rule was that if you will lie, cheat or steal to play a game/get fantasy stuff/have an object, then it is an unhealthy influence and it goes. Period. My gut told me that for MY kid it was important. And it WORKED. We didn't have kinect or Wii because they didn't exist. So we just locked them in a storage unit. Lourdes, it really sounds like your son is addicted to videogames. Not that he uses them as coping, but that they are his drug of choice. More and more people in the addiction treatment world are seeing people with true video game addiction and attempting to get them into treatment. It challenges our concepts of addiction, but videogames stimulate the areas of the brain that other drugs also stimulate, or some of the research I ahve seen says this. You may need to take that into consideration also. They even did an episode of the show "Intervention" on a boy who was addicted. Please do some research on this before you just unplug him. in my humble opinion you need to get some professional help involved before you cut off his videogames. There is more going on than just a hobby. Does he have bills? Who pays for the gaming? What would happen if he had to get a job to pay for the gaming? Have you ever told him that he has to have a job if he wants to play games because he must pay for them? It is one strategy to think about and to ask the professionals to help you with. I KNOW it sounds like this "trivializes" addiction, even can sound silly to some. But if addiction is a disease, caused by a substance that creates a specific feeling, why can't videogames also stimulate the brain to cause that feeling? [/QUOTE]
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