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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 578132" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>You just made your decision. Your daughter won't like it, but you want to move on with SO. It DOES seem like your daughter is making you choose...so that is out of your hands. Fair? Probably to your daughter. But fair isn't the issue. As long as you are with SO I suspect your daughter is going to live with mom and be resentful of you. Unfortunately, most of us can't have our cake and eat it too...even if it's not fair.</p><p>Your daughter DOES love you. She doesn't like SO in your life, living with you, hearing the two of you having sex, etc. You can't control how she thinks. You can only control yourself. That's something important I learned early on in therapy <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>Divorce is rarely simplistic and can cause deep resentment. Even if it's not fair.</p><p>Remember this: YOU chose your honey. Your daughter didn't have a choice in the matter. Why did you automatically think she'd love her? Just because YOU do, you did force her into your daughter's life. When we pick our SO's WE love them...no guarantees our k ids will even TOLERATE them. Daughter may not be acting fair in my opinion, but you can't control her and how she feels and how she reacts to it. </p><p></p><p>Also, Utopia isn't a real place <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Wish it were.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 578132, member: 1550"] You just made your decision. Your daughter won't like it, but you want to move on with SO. It DOES seem like your daughter is making you choose...so that is out of your hands. Fair? Probably to your daughter. But fair isn't the issue. As long as you are with SO I suspect your daughter is going to live with mom and be resentful of you. Unfortunately, most of us can't have our cake and eat it too...even if it's not fair. Your daughter DOES love you. She doesn't like SO in your life, living with you, hearing the two of you having sex, etc. You can't control how she thinks. You can only control yourself. That's something important I learned early on in therapy :) Divorce is rarely simplistic and can cause deep resentment. Even if it's not fair. Remember this: YOU chose your honey. Your daughter didn't have a choice in the matter. Why did you automatically think she'd love her? Just because YOU do, you did force her into your daughter's life. When we pick our SO's WE love them...no guarantees our k ids will even TOLERATE them. Daughter may not be acting fair in my opinion, but you can't control her and how she feels and how she reacts to it. Also, Utopia isn't a real place :) Wish it were. [/QUOTE]
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