difficult child called and I was trying to fill him in about probably staying in this area but he seems bummed out because he really wants to move away from here- anywhere. I'd already postponed the trip to meet the man in the neighboring state because he seeemed unsure about what he wants to do at all for one thing. Then there is the job I have now (in this field, it is a project after a project but none last a really long time, at least if they last that long it wouldn't be keeping a person busy full time) and I didn't want to take off for a few days when I can be here earning money. Then I got the interview/meeting with the guy on Monday for a regular, full-time job, and that's around here, too. I'd LOVE to move out of this area (although not in with my mother), but given a choice I don't want to lose the house and cringe over the money I had in it that would be lost. Also, I've been in this area a long time now and these people are all telling me they are comfortable considering hiring me because they know people I have worked with before. (I think it's like references that are just spreading a good reputation instead of someone formally calling a previous employer.) This goes a long way and if I move out of this area, that advantage is gone. If I get the full time job, I know I can keep the house. I might not be able to keep it if I don't, then would need to think about renting a place in order to stay here and try making it on my own. But what if this really isn't best for difficult child? He says he wants to move away in order to have a fresh start and he thinks that will help more than anything in him staying out of trouble. I don't want to lower his chances of success. Of course I have to support him and it's not exactly like I have a job offer in hand someplace else. He couldn;'t talk long but I was trying to tell him that if I can hold onto the house and work, it would give me a chance to repair it and then sell it and credit wouldn't be ruined for years and we would have more options about where to live next. This could be Plan B so if he gets out and IS having a hard time living around the same neighborhood and staying out of trouble, we could still move later.