Just when you think youve got a decent plan in place the difficult child lets you have it right between the eyes he ran away last night for the 5th time. I guess my worrying whether or not we were raising that bar just high enough so he could experience some success and feel good about himself was answered. He went to the interview on Thursday with husband and was not happy about the total structure and constant activities that were planned for him but after they got back home we managed to have a pretty good discussion about things, played cards like the good ole days and he led us to believe he was willing to give it a try (even though he would hate it) then spent all day with me Friday doing things in preparation for school (we even managed to squeeze in a game of putt-putt at his request) Like the fool that I am, I let him go off with a friend after we got home (supposed to be back by 8:00 pm) About 7:30ish I go into his room to turn off the fan and find another run-a-way letter hes famous for. Hed feel like a bird in a cage, its just not for him, and he doesnt see the point about the goal setting we had discussed his goal is to just BE HAPPY so thats what hes going to do - hes sorry about everything (including stealing $10 out of my purse but hell pay me back) He assures us hell be fine as he has wonderful friends that will look out for him and support him they are not the useless drug addicts that I make them out to be. After my meltdown last night (which I didnt think Id come back from) I am totally clueless as to what to do next. The 15-day stint in juvie didnt exactly scare him straight. We called the police to report him as a runaway but the fact remains he is 16 until December. Should we try to find him like the last 4 times or just let him come home when hes ready? If and when he does come home, then what? The military school is not one that takes them against their will & Im not comfortable with that anyway. So thats no longer an option. Certainly cant live like we were before but it looks like we may have to, at least till hes 17. Am I missing something here? Im hoping you guys have something up your sleeves.