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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 192848" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>My answer: Because we recognize our GsFGs needs. We know that they are living in a world not set up for them. We look to find how to meet our difficult children's needs. We love our special people and see the good in them. We see that they don't like their behavior anymore then anyone else does. We accept that kids grow in different ways, that kids do not learn the same way, that behaviors are often medically charged.</p><p> </p><p>Our difficult children need creative parenting - the normal disciplining just doesn't make sense to them. So, warrior mom's strive to understand where their kids are coming from and use their understandings to help them grow.</p><p> </p><p>Some of us do find the need to detach when we have done everything we could and difficult child personally hurts us, betrays our trust, starts abusing those around. However, warrior moms work harder to first give another chance, to find another way. When we do need to detach, it is not because we have given up but it is because we recognize that difficult child has started to use us to keep from growing - we have the habit of helping rescue too often and too soon - so to detach and take away that resource, difficult child is forced to take on more responisibility. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.</p><p> </p><p>It is just as hard for non-warrior parents to detach. It is usually because their child has deeply hurt them or they don't know how to parent the bad behavior. They don't know that "bad behavior" is really a call for help and there are avenues to look at in the medical field to help. They may have fallen into the belief that because their child does not fit the "normal" then there is no use to ever reaching the kid. Society still does not understand mental health - it is still a feared area by parents, "No, my kid is just like everyone else. Just needs punishing to get it."</p><p></p><p>So GO Warrior Moms GO! Your love for your child and willingness to figure your chld out will be the chance he/she needs to succeed.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 192848, member: 5096"] My answer: Because we recognize our GsFGs needs. We know that they are living in a world not set up for them. We look to find how to meet our difficult children's needs. We love our special people and see the good in them. We see that they don't like their behavior anymore then anyone else does. We accept that kids grow in different ways, that kids do not learn the same way, that behaviors are often medically charged. Our difficult children need creative parenting - the normal disciplining just doesn't make sense to them. So, warrior mom's strive to understand where their kids are coming from and use their understandings to help them grow. Some of us do find the need to detach when we have done everything we could and difficult child personally hurts us, betrays our trust, starts abusing those around. However, warrior moms work harder to first give another chance, to find another way. When we do need to detach, it is not because we have given up but it is because we recognize that difficult child has started to use us to keep from growing - we have the habit of helping rescue too often and too soon - so to detach and take away that resource, difficult child is forced to take on more responisibility. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. It is just as hard for non-warrior parents to detach. It is usually because their child has deeply hurt them or they don't know how to parent the bad behavior. They don't know that "bad behavior" is really a call for help and there are avenues to look at in the medical field to help. They may have fallen into the belief that because their child does not fit the "normal" then there is no use to ever reaching the kid. Society still does not understand mental health - it is still a feared area by parents, "No, my kid is just like everyone else. Just needs punishing to get it." So GO Warrior Moms GO! Your love for your child and willingness to figure your chld out will be the chance he/she needs to succeed. [/QUOTE]
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