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I haven't posted in awhile. So busy with school and difficult child. She still does not have a job-despite 30 applications and several interviews. She's pretty discouraged and she doesn't deal with this at all. She hasn't been running off to unknown places (this is good), but she does go to friends' homes without permission. She'll just call and say where she is and when she will be home. Sometimes this is the next day. We ground her or give her a work detail for it-she will go anyway or won't do the work. Room already stripped, no cell phone, no hair appointments, no clothes, etc.
On Sunday she told us she uses pot once in awhile. We asked her how she paid for it as we give her no money and she has no job. She told us people give it to her. She knows it's not good but insists its better than the antidepressants she is refusing to take. Honestly they really have not made much of a difference. She also told us that she was being honest with us and that was a good thing. How do we respond??? She has had years of intervention and this again.
She finially takes the GED on November 30th and Dec. 1st. She told us she wasn't sure she wanted to go to college in January as a poor student without a car. We asked her how she could afford a car and to take driving lessons? Even with a part time job, she wont be able to pay for that, her pot and all the entertainment she seems to think is lacking in her life. She has no grasp on reality. We told her she would loose any scholarship she will get from the community college if she doesn't go to school. They offer scholarships to kids who score high on the GED and finish school early. She doesn't care. She thinks she can just work a minimum wage job and save for school. We told her at 18, she was out of the house if not in school or paying rent. Out no matter what if she did not live by our rules (she hasn't for years-we just don't have to keep her here after 18). Well I guess I won't be going to school. Really? Are you that lacking in common sense???
Also, she missed the last 2 appointments to EMDR-said it wasn't helping. We said, mmmm seems to be helping, you are not running off anymore. I don't need therapy is her mantra. 12 step meeting? After care at Residential Treatment Center (RTC)? Nope-she doesn't need that.
Why is it I am flabber gasted at every new turn of her strategies to control and manipulate us? Why do I have so much hope? I can see her eventually forcing us to kick her out and make her homeless when she is 18. I think it would give her a high. She tells us how stupid we were to put her away in RTCs and waste our money. I wonder if she isn't trying to get back at us. She actually smiles when I ask why chores are not complete, or if she is ok with being in constant discomfort with her family. Could she have some kind of antisocial thing going on?
On Sunday she told us she uses pot once in awhile. We asked her how she paid for it as we give her no money and she has no job. She told us people give it to her. She knows it's not good but insists its better than the antidepressants she is refusing to take. Honestly they really have not made much of a difference. She also told us that she was being honest with us and that was a good thing. How do we respond??? She has had years of intervention and this again.
She finially takes the GED on November 30th and Dec. 1st. She told us she wasn't sure she wanted to go to college in January as a poor student without a car. We asked her how she could afford a car and to take driving lessons? Even with a part time job, she wont be able to pay for that, her pot and all the entertainment she seems to think is lacking in her life. She has no grasp on reality. We told her she would loose any scholarship she will get from the community college if she doesn't go to school. They offer scholarships to kids who score high on the GED and finish school early. She doesn't care. She thinks she can just work a minimum wage job and save for school. We told her at 18, she was out of the house if not in school or paying rent. Out no matter what if she did not live by our rules (she hasn't for years-we just don't have to keep her here after 18). Well I guess I won't be going to school. Really? Are you that lacking in common sense???
Also, she missed the last 2 appointments to EMDR-said it wasn't helping. We said, mmmm seems to be helping, you are not running off anymore. I don't need therapy is her mantra. 12 step meeting? After care at Residential Treatment Center (RTC)? Nope-she doesn't need that.
Why is it I am flabber gasted at every new turn of her strategies to control and manipulate us? Why do I have so much hope? I can see her eventually forcing us to kick her out and make her homeless when she is 18. I think it would give her a high. She tells us how stupid we were to put her away in RTCs and waste our money. I wonder if she isn't trying to get back at us. She actually smiles when I ask why chores are not complete, or if she is ok with being in constant discomfort with her family. Could she have some kind of antisocial thing going on?
