I always wondered what rules others insist upon for an adult child to live at home. I can share mine and you can share yours, if this topic is interesting to you. Then I will tell you which one my two adult children who had to leave violated. 1/To live at home after age eighteen you MUST either be in school full time or have a full time job. I will accept part time if it's leading to full time and the adult child seems very interested in bettering himself and growing up. 2/Everyone is polite to one another. Yes, I know siblings and parents and their adult offspring do fight, but it can not be constant, it can not involve threats, and the adult child can not be either verbally or physically aggressive. Physical aggression is very serious in our house. 3/In my house you respect our desires. You do not light up a cigarette in our house. You do not drink. You do not do anything illegal in our house. What you do outside of the house, I don't always know. But don't do it at home. Yes, we will smell the smoke even if you shut the door, open the window, and smoke three rooms away. It is forbidden in our house. 4/You can not be out after twelve, no matter how old you are, without checking in at home and telling me that you won't be home and where you are. I am a very nervous person and I will not be able to get a lick of sleep unless I know, no matter how old you are. Violating this rule was so strict in our house that even 36 never broke it. When Julie broke the rule, I would call all her friends looking for her an d then call the cops. It was very embarassing for her, but I was frantic. If you live with me, let me know, as a courtesy, that you are going to be late and that you are safe and where you are. Or that you will be spending the night somewhere else. Just tell me. That's all I ask. 5/You don't steal. 6/Don't make a huge mess in the house. Pay some of your bills, like gas. Be respectful of our property. No holes in the wall because your angry, for example. These are all I can think of. I don't think they are unreasonable or hard rules to follow. Most young adults follow these rules without being told about them. 36 had to leave when he put a hole in the wall just beside my head after backing me into a corner, although he actually was the one who walked out the door. I had warned him that if he left he would not be allowed to come back, but he left anyway. Before he left, he had stolen, memorized ex's credit card to rent porn movies, and was very abusive to his sister Julie. Julie used drugs and had many, many chances to get help, which she refused. She stole, lied and was on parole twice. She told us she was going to pick up a friend of hers who was going to spend the night and called us at midnight from Minnesota because she had gone on a "road trip" with this girl and the car had been obviously racing so badly that it started on fire. We gave her a lot of chances, but she finally wore out her welcome. It is hard yet gratifying to see the wonderful straight young mother she is today, but she sure gave me some gray hairs!!!!