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<blockquote data-quote="Marcie Mac" data-source="post: 184589" data-attributes="member: 47"><p>Honestly Steely. to me, there still seems to be a lot of pain and anger of equal amounts associated with the loss of your sister, and her stuff, and her partner,and your parents - maybe it seems to you, they seem to have "more" of her, and you have so little. Is having more of her "stuff" going to help heal you, or cause you to mourn more and stop any healing process dead in its tracks for a very long time? </p><p> </p><p>If its going to be more healing, then go for it, if it is not, then stay home, and let your memories of her be good things, the photo's, the jewelry box of things, the things you shared together - keep those memories of her in your heart as no parent or partner can ever take them away from you.</p><p> </p><p>Being so conflicted about what is or isn't going on with her stuff can't be helping you towards healing. I can imagine so many unanswered questions about her death is prying much on your mind, but can you ask yourself if she would want you going thru all this pain. Maybe the material stuff wasn't as important to her, or the idea of her parents going thru her things wasn't as important to her as you are imagining them to be - if they were, she would have seen to it and made provisions for her things to definately go to you, your parents, or her partner.</p><p> </p><p>I don't know the answer to the questions but am sending you a cyber hug and wishing you find some peace in your life with all of this.</p><p> </p><p>Marcie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marcie Mac, post: 184589, member: 47"] Honestly Steely. to me, there still seems to be a lot of pain and anger of equal amounts associated with the loss of your sister, and her stuff, and her partner,and your parents - maybe it seems to you, they seem to have "more" of her, and you have so little. Is having more of her "stuff" going to help heal you, or cause you to mourn more and stop any healing process dead in its tracks for a very long time? If its going to be more healing, then go for it, if it is not, then stay home, and let your memories of her be good things, the photo's, the jewelry box of things, the things you shared together - keep those memories of her in your heart as no parent or partner can ever take them away from you. Being so conflicted about what is or isn't going on with her stuff can't be helping you towards healing. I can imagine so many unanswered questions about her death is prying much on your mind, but can you ask yourself if she would want you going thru all this pain. Maybe the material stuff wasn't as important to her, or the idea of her parents going thru her things wasn't as important to her as you are imagining them to be - if they were, she would have seen to it and made provisions for her things to definately go to you, your parents, or her partner. I don't know the answer to the questions but am sending you a cyber hug and wishing you find some peace in your life with all of this. Marcie [/QUOTE]
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