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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 184667" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Grieving is such a personal thing. It is hard to say what is right because "right" is different for every person. Would having more of her things truly make H any closer to you? I don't think so. You are so very close to her regardless of what you have. Is there something of hers that would bring a smile to your face every time you saw it? Something that you could show to friends and say this is H in a nutshell? Something you want for your kids so they'll remember her a little? Then ask for that something. Otherwise, I would let the stuff go because that's what it ultimately is -- stuff.</p><p> </p><p>The other sad fact is that legally you have no right to any of H's things. If your parents choose to give you something, they can. Otherwise, it is theirs to do with as they choose. The law isn't always kind nor fair.</p><p> </p><p>I love the idea of going back for a few days with someone and sharing H's memories. In the long run, that will have more impact, meaning and memories than the things in H's home, especially if it is coupled with a memory book that can be handed down.</p><p> </p><p>I wish there was something we could say or do to take some of your pain away. Losing someone you love is hard. It is even harder when there is no rhyme nor reason for that loss. You have that plus many unanswered questions. There are just no simple answers. I'm so very sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 184667, member: 3626"] Grieving is such a personal thing. It is hard to say what is right because "right" is different for every person. Would having more of her things truly make H any closer to you? I don't think so. You are so very close to her regardless of what you have. Is there something of hers that would bring a smile to your face every time you saw it? Something that you could show to friends and say this is H in a nutshell? Something you want for your kids so they'll remember her a little? Then ask for that something. Otherwise, I would let the stuff go because that's what it ultimately is -- stuff. The other sad fact is that legally you have no right to any of H's things. If your parents choose to give you something, they can. Otherwise, it is theirs to do with as they choose. The law isn't always kind nor fair. I love the idea of going back for a few days with someone and sharing H's memories. In the long run, that will have more impact, meaning and memories than the things in H's home, especially if it is coupled with a memory book that can be handed down. I wish there was something we could say or do to take some of your pain away. Losing someone you love is hard. It is even harder when there is no rhyme nor reason for that loss. You have that plus many unanswered questions. There are just no simple answers. I'm so very sorry. [/QUOTE]
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