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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 185006" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Come on up. I'll drive you around. I know all the places she went. I know that sounds odd, but all of us go the same places up here! There are some beautiful places that the people who love it here just don't ignore. We could go to the Portland Women's Forum. I bet she loved it, and I'm sure you would too.</p><p></p><p><a href="http://www.oregonstateparks.org/park_164.php" target="_blank">http://www.oregonstateparks.org/park_164.php</a></p><p></p><p>But, that being said, I wouldn't go up and fight for her stuff. The probate is done and it's too late for that. All it will accomplish is that you will fight. I would try to keep your dignity, and if you want, I will go with you and we can talk to her partner at some point and ask for one or two small things of hers to remember her by. She loved H, and she can't be that cold-hearted if H cared for her. I wouldn't wait forever, though. Those things may mean little to her and she may not know what to do with them.</p><p></p><p>I think I would ask your parents for one or two specific items if it is not too late. Maybe a note would be less painful. But I wouldn't put it past them to call the police on you if you come up here with a fight in mind. Don't let them make you that unhappy and vulnerable. Be strong by staying away from them.</p><p></p><p>Have you talked to a grief counselor yet? It's been a long time, and you're feelings are still so raw. The constant back and forth with your parents isn't helping you. Ask for a small thing, if you really need a thing, and move on with her memories, away from them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 185006, member: 99"] Come on up. I'll drive you around. I know all the places she went. I know that sounds odd, but all of us go the same places up here! There are some beautiful places that the people who love it here just don't ignore. We could go to the Portland Women's Forum. I bet she loved it, and I'm sure you would too. [URL]http://www.oregonstateparks.org/park_164.php[/URL] But, that being said, I wouldn't go up and fight for her stuff. The probate is done and it's too late for that. All it will accomplish is that you will fight. I would try to keep your dignity, and if you want, I will go with you and we can talk to her partner at some point and ask for one or two small things of hers to remember her by. She loved H, and she can't be that cold-hearted if H cared for her. I wouldn't wait forever, though. Those things may mean little to her and she may not know what to do with them. I think I would ask your parents for one or two specific items if it is not too late. Maybe a note would be less painful. But I wouldn't put it past them to call the police on you if you come up here with a fight in mind. Don't let them make you that unhappy and vulnerable. Be strong by staying away from them. Have you talked to a grief counselor yet? It's been a long time, and you're feelings are still so raw. The constant back and forth with your parents isn't helping you. Ask for a small thing, if you really need a thing, and move on with her memories, away from them. [/QUOTE]
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