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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 444073" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Well, seriously? Don't beat yourself up. We've all done it. </p><p></p><p>I mean heck when katie was still in mo I bought entire wardrobes for the 3 grands and sent them to her. Yes, it was for the grands, but red flags should've been going off left and right. if they were? I sure wasn't listening. Then when she was deciding to come here, I went out and did the same thing. Yeah, still for the grans cuz I knew she'd not bring their clothes with them.......but still, enabling is enabling. </p><p></p><p>Katie strongly hinted at summer wardrobes. I told her a lot of what I bought last year was summer clothing (half and half because I didn't know when she'd finally show up) and lord knows those kids haven't grown at all in 3 yrs so it's not like they can't still wear them. She's hinting at school supplies and school clothes. She can keep right on hinting. </p><p></p><p>While I initially did it for the grands, doing such things enable katie to continue her lifestyle. So, grands or not, I've stopped. Which makes me mad as I like to go out and pick up bargains ect for my grandkids. Spoiling is the fun part of being a Nana. ugh And no, it's not fair to the grands......but I've got to draw the line somewhere and it not my responsiblity to feed and clothe and buy school supplies for her kids. So from now on I'm sticking to xmas and bdays, the rest is up to their parents.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion giving and addict cash is a huge NO NO, good intentions or not. The last thing on an addicts mind is food and shelter. I had to turn this into a mantra with bff so I wouldn't be tempted. She had 2 innocent boys who didn't deserve to go hungry because their mom didn't think food was as important as feeding her addicitons.......yet even if I gave her food, it let her use her cash for her addiction. When I saw her do that, it ended the food donations too.</p><p></p><p>It's hard to just shut the mom thing off sometimes even when we know better.</p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 444073, member: 84"] Well, seriously? Don't beat yourself up. We've all done it. I mean heck when katie was still in mo I bought entire wardrobes for the 3 grands and sent them to her. Yes, it was for the grands, but red flags should've been going off left and right. if they were? I sure wasn't listening. Then when she was deciding to come here, I went out and did the same thing. Yeah, still for the grans cuz I knew she'd not bring their clothes with them.......but still, enabling is enabling. Katie strongly hinted at summer wardrobes. I told her a lot of what I bought last year was summer clothing (half and half because I didn't know when she'd finally show up) and lord knows those kids haven't grown at all in 3 yrs so it's not like they can't still wear them. She's hinting at school supplies and school clothes. She can keep right on hinting. While I initially did it for the grands, doing such things enable katie to continue her lifestyle. So, grands or not, I've stopped. Which makes me mad as I like to go out and pick up bargains ect for my grandkids. Spoiling is the fun part of being a Nana. ugh And no, it's not fair to the grands......but I've got to draw the line somewhere and it not my responsiblity to feed and clothe and buy school supplies for her kids. So from now on I'm sticking to xmas and bdays, the rest is up to their parents. in my opinion giving and addict cash is a huge NO NO, good intentions or not. The last thing on an addicts mind is food and shelter. I had to turn this into a mantra with bff so I wouldn't be tempted. She had 2 innocent boys who didn't deserve to go hungry because their mom didn't think food was as important as feeding her addicitons.......yet even if I gave her food, it let her use her cash for her addiction. When I saw her do that, it ended the food donations too. It's hard to just shut the mom thing off sometimes even when we know better. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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