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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 559059" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Hi julierose. Well, I have a nearly-6 year old who has big meltdowns too, though perhaps not as destructive or as long-lasting (but that may be no more than a detail). I totally understand how desperate you feel and how impossible it seems to find the right balance in this situation. At the same time... my strong intuition on reading your post was that you should NOT be holding her down when she is raging. I understand why you do that - it's truly not a judgement of you. But I think it will feel to her like abuse, not love, and it will enrage her all the more.</p><p>But what DO you do? She is allowed to rage (though better for her if she does not), she is not allowed to damage people or property. I don't suppose an empty room with padded floor and even walls is a possibility? Probably not, I realise... </p><p>What is behind the rage? I wish I could help more. I've never found any real "solutions" for my son's rages but his are unpleasant but not horrific. I do hope others will come with more specific advice.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 559059, member: 11227"] Hi julierose. Well, I have a nearly-6 year old who has big meltdowns too, though perhaps not as destructive or as long-lasting (but that may be no more than a detail). I totally understand how desperate you feel and how impossible it seems to find the right balance in this situation. At the same time... my strong intuition on reading your post was that you should NOT be holding her down when she is raging. I understand why you do that - it's truly not a judgement of you. But I think it will feel to her like abuse, not love, and it will enrage her all the more. But what DO you do? She is allowed to rage (though better for her if she does not), she is not allowed to damage people or property. I don't suppose an empty room with padded floor and even walls is a possibility? Probably not, I realise... What is behind the rage? I wish I could help more. I've never found any real "solutions" for my son's rages but his are unpleasant but not horrific. I do hope others will come with more specific advice. [/QUOTE]
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