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<blockquote data-quote="allhaileris" data-source="post: 559542" data-attributes="member: 5663"><p>Mine used to rage like that, it doesn't happen often anymore, I think due to maturity. But at 4-7, oh boy the rages! I wish I had known about the blanket trick, I'm sure it would have worked. I have done the bear hug thing sitting on the floor with them facing away. That helps sometimes. I have had to do what you did, kind of sit on top of her without actually sitting, and then holding her hands above her head. I had to get her into a position where she couldn't bite me. As soon as the crying started, I knew she had broken the rage. For mine, she never seems to remember what happened at the height of the rage. It made it really hard to talk about her actions.</p><p></p><p>She was put in her room with us holding the handle a ton. It was for OUR safety. She would kick the door, throw things around, etc. We replaced the door at least once. Never ever hurt herself in her room. I was always afraid she'd knock into something in the living area, and we had a small apt and it was crammed so there wasn't a lot of room to run around. I was afraid she'd leave the house, which did happen, and I had to put a lock on the door to keep her in. There was absolutely nothing I could say to get her to stop until she wore herself out. No amount of "I love you"s mattered. She just wasn't herself during these times, the look in her eyes just wasn't her. </p><p></p><p>I still don't know what caused many of those rages. Food dye is a trigger, so that did cause some of them, always the worst. She had one once when we were camping at a group event. It was dusk and hard to see and I couldn't control her. I was doing that sitting over her thing for a long time, trying to just keep her safe. I ended up giving her to a group of 7 big men and 1 woman so I could have a break and go pee. I came back to find her tied to the chair and the woman sitting on her. And yes, this was a red food dye episode. So many of the others I think were just from dumb stuff, transition, her not being allowed to do something, but I can't pin it on one thing in particular. She may end up bipolar (which we just recently found out), which I guess would explain them. I'm just glad they don't happen much anymore, her verbal communication has grown, and we've gotten better at knowing what's going on with her moods and whatnot.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="allhaileris, post: 559542, member: 5663"] Mine used to rage like that, it doesn't happen often anymore, I think due to maturity. But at 4-7, oh boy the rages! I wish I had known about the blanket trick, I'm sure it would have worked. I have done the bear hug thing sitting on the floor with them facing away. That helps sometimes. I have had to do what you did, kind of sit on top of her without actually sitting, and then holding her hands above her head. I had to get her into a position where she couldn't bite me. As soon as the crying started, I knew she had broken the rage. For mine, she never seems to remember what happened at the height of the rage. It made it really hard to talk about her actions. She was put in her room with us holding the handle a ton. It was for OUR safety. She would kick the door, throw things around, etc. We replaced the door at least once. Never ever hurt herself in her room. I was always afraid she'd knock into something in the living area, and we had a small apt and it was crammed so there wasn't a lot of room to run around. I was afraid she'd leave the house, which did happen, and I had to put a lock on the door to keep her in. There was absolutely nothing I could say to get her to stop until she wore herself out. No amount of "I love you"s mattered. She just wasn't herself during these times, the look in her eyes just wasn't her. I still don't know what caused many of those rages. Food dye is a trigger, so that did cause some of them, always the worst. She had one once when we were camping at a group event. It was dusk and hard to see and I couldn't control her. I was doing that sitting over her thing for a long time, trying to just keep her safe. I ended up giving her to a group of 7 big men and 1 woman so I could have a break and go pee. I came back to find her tied to the chair and the woman sitting on her. And yes, this was a red food dye episode. So many of the others I think were just from dumb stuff, transition, her not being allowed to do something, but I can't pin it on one thing in particular. She may end up bipolar (which we just recently found out), which I guess would explain them. I'm just glad they don't happen much anymore, her verbal communication has grown, and we've gotten better at knowing what's going on with her moods and whatnot. [/QUOTE]
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