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What to do when parents don't believe diagnosis!!!?
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<blockquote data-quote="Ktllc" data-source="post: 521979" data-attributes="member: 11847"><p>I feel for you! And, as most of us here, I can relate. I am quite close to my parents despite the Atlantic ocean between us. I talk to them through Skype on a regular basis and we see them 2 or 3 times a year (extented stay). For some out reason, I sometimes have that "verbal diahrea" and share TOO much. I don't know why, I can't help it. I want my parents to have my back and know what we are going through. Then I get annoyed when they don't get it or argue with me about V's issues. </p><p>Now, I try to filter more and, several times, I had to be very clear: I am telling you to keep you informed but it is not up for debate. If I tell them certain situations are to be handled a certain way, tha's the way it WILL happen. It is not a request, it is a demand. A little harsh to say to your own parents... but it is for the greater good. I even had to tell my mother that I heard her opinion (at the time she was telling me I was the problem) but now she needs to keep quiet and I was the one to make decisions about my son and she had no more to say even if she does not agree. I even added that I would protect V against her at ANY cost.</p><p>I have also diminished the frequency of our conversations. And I try to watch myself: try to have other topics of conversation and not always talk about V's issues.</p><p>It is hard for me, as V's issues are so central to our life. But it is not healthy for anyone. And bottom line: my parents will NEVER fully understand. Not because they don't want to (although there were times they were most certainly in denial), but because it is not part of their everyday lives. And I think it is something important to acknowledge: grand-parents are not walking in our shoes, they cannot really get it even when/if they want to.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ktllc, post: 521979, member: 11847"] I feel for you! And, as most of us here, I can relate. I am quite close to my parents despite the Atlantic ocean between us. I talk to them through Skype on a regular basis and we see them 2 or 3 times a year (extented stay). For some out reason, I sometimes have that "verbal diahrea" and share TOO much. I don't know why, I can't help it. I want my parents to have my back and know what we are going through. Then I get annoyed when they don't get it or argue with me about V's issues. Now, I try to filter more and, several times, I had to be very clear: I am telling you to keep you informed but it is not up for debate. If I tell them certain situations are to be handled a certain way, tha's the way it WILL happen. It is not a request, it is a demand. A little harsh to say to your own parents... but it is for the greater good. I even had to tell my mother that I heard her opinion (at the time she was telling me I was the problem) but now she needs to keep quiet and I was the one to make decisions about my son and she had no more to say even if she does not agree. I even added that I would protect V against her at ANY cost. I have also diminished the frequency of our conversations. And I try to watch myself: try to have other topics of conversation and not always talk about V's issues. It is hard for me, as V's issues are so central to our life. But it is not healthy for anyone. And bottom line: my parents will NEVER fully understand. Not because they don't want to (although there were times they were most certainly in denial), but because it is not part of their everyday lives. And I think it is something important to acknowledge: grand-parents are not walking in our shoes, they cannot really get it even when/if they want to. [/QUOTE]
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