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What to do when parents don't believe diagnosis!!!?
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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 521996" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Maybe she measures her own success or failure not by the way YOU turned out, but by how her grandkids are "turning out"... She doesn't get bragging rights for kids who behave like V. So SHE looks bad in the eyes of her friends. She "needs" you to make HER look good.</p><p></p><p>Of course, that's not how real life works. But some parents really DO feel that way. And it makes it impossible for them to be supportive, or to even be neutral.</p><p></p><p>We had to cut our parents (both sets) out of the child-raising loop - which essentially destroyed the relationship. But we had to choose between giving our kids what they really needed, or trying to give our parents what they wanted (i.e. what they think they needed). We couldn't have done the latter, anyway - what the two sets of parents "needed" was at polar opposite sides of the scale... made the decision a bit easier, but the fallout is still huge, and the result is definitely isolation.</p><p></p><p>Which means... there are no easy answers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 521996, member: 11791"] Maybe she measures her own success or failure not by the way YOU turned out, but by how her grandkids are "turning out"... She doesn't get bragging rights for kids who behave like V. So SHE looks bad in the eyes of her friends. She "needs" you to make HER look good. Of course, that's not how real life works. But some parents really DO feel that way. And it makes it impossible for them to be supportive, or to even be neutral. We had to cut our parents (both sets) out of the child-raising loop - which essentially destroyed the relationship. But we had to choose between giving our kids what they really needed, or trying to give our parents what they wanted (i.e. what they think they needed). We couldn't have done the latter, anyway - what the two sets of parents "needed" was at polar opposite sides of the scale... made the decision a bit easier, but the fallout is still huge, and the result is definitely isolation. Which means... there are no easy answers. [/QUOTE]
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