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easy child has been in the hospital with pneumonia, and the miracles never cease. Another mother from down the hall who had her son in here works for our local CPS. We talked "unofficially" about the new trouble that difficult child 1 has found herself in, with skipping school and taking drugs. She gave me the "FYI" on the juvenile justice people, as far as the probation officers, the staff at the detention center, and the judge....I am getting rather excited to get to meet the judge... Apparently our county has our very own "DO NOT BS ME" Judge Judy...only ours works in juvenile court and her name isn't Judy.
Yesterday, as I left my 5 year old at the hospital with my husband long enough to run home and check on the other girls and get some things we needed at the hospital, I went upstairs to check difficult child 1's stuff before she goes to her moms (she has a habit of transporting illegal things back and forth from home to moms and moms to home) and her bag gets checked when she leaves and when she comes back. As I was looking through her bedroom, I came across some letters she had written her sister, where she talks about how I almost found her stash... So that, of course, prompts me to go looking. I was not able to find the "DRUG" stash, but I managed to locate the box where she keeps all the equipment. I have confiscated that and she is not being allowed back in her room until I locate the rest.
Have ANY of you ever been so at the end of the line that you are WAITING for them to do something illegal so you can call the police???
I feel AWFUL for being in that place, but I just...keep looking, waiting for something that I can turn in. And its not because I want her gone, or anything, but I just think that its time that someone who can enforce more serious consequences than we can gets involved. I mean, it does not matter what we say or do, it doesn't change anything...short of strip-searching her every time she goes up or comes down from her room, leaves the house, etc...I can't keep the stuff out! Other than LOCKING HER UP to MAKE her face things, I don't know what else is going to get her attention...
I have considered making her give me the password to her myspace, because I know there is a LOT in there that would give me some information, but I only have one shot with that, because as soon as I make her log in to it once...that will be the last time she puts anything on there that I could use, so I want to make sure that when I ruin that source, its WORTH IT....
And, oh...I am having some small ANGER issues because I have an asthmatic 5 year old with pneumonia in the hospital fighting to breathe...and I can't help but thinking that the 15 year old smoking WHO KNOWS WHAT in the next room might be partly to blame.....and thats very hard for me to be that angry at difficult child 1....
Yesterday, as I left my 5 year old at the hospital with my husband long enough to run home and check on the other girls and get some things we needed at the hospital, I went upstairs to check difficult child 1's stuff before she goes to her moms (she has a habit of transporting illegal things back and forth from home to moms and moms to home) and her bag gets checked when she leaves and when she comes back. As I was looking through her bedroom, I came across some letters she had written her sister, where she talks about how I almost found her stash... So that, of course, prompts me to go looking. I was not able to find the "DRUG" stash, but I managed to locate the box where she keeps all the equipment. I have confiscated that and she is not being allowed back in her room until I locate the rest.
Have ANY of you ever been so at the end of the line that you are WAITING for them to do something illegal so you can call the police???
I feel AWFUL for being in that place, but I just...keep looking, waiting for something that I can turn in. And its not because I want her gone, or anything, but I just think that its time that someone who can enforce more serious consequences than we can gets involved. I mean, it does not matter what we say or do, it doesn't change anything...short of strip-searching her every time she goes up or comes down from her room, leaves the house, etc...I can't keep the stuff out! Other than LOCKING HER UP to MAKE her face things, I don't know what else is going to get her attention...
I have considered making her give me the password to her myspace, because I know there is a LOT in there that would give me some information, but I only have one shot with that, because as soon as I make her log in to it once...that will be the last time she puts anything on there that I could use, so I want to make sure that when I ruin that source, its WORTH IT....
And, oh...I am having some small ANGER issues because I have an asthmatic 5 year old with pneumonia in the hospital fighting to breathe...and I can't help but thinking that the 15 year old smoking WHO KNOWS WHAT in the next room might be partly to blame.....and thats very hard for me to be that angry at difficult child 1....