Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
What to Make of Recent Meltdown
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 189994" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It certinaly sounds like there is a lot going on. I would not say it is behavioral. i think your husband needs to get on board or stay out of htings - traditional parenting is a recipe for disaster with our kids. I am NOT saying he is a bad person or bad parent - just that he does not understand and really NEEDS to in order to help the family.</p><p> </p><p>Manster (love the nickname by the way) sounds like he has some Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) in there. also many sensory issues. I would look for a private Occupational Therapist (OT) to do a thorough sensory integration evaluation. The school does have OTs and will evaluate - but they ONLY evaluate for what they think will impact his education. School OTs do NOT evaluate for what will impact life separate from school. in my opinion they miss a LOT. our first school Occupational Therapist (OT) told me that thank you didn't have any sensory issues. WRONG!!! He has them in every group they test for (for each sense). It was having a HUGE impact on school. </p><p> </p><p>We use brushing therapy. You have to learn it from an Occupational Therapist (OT), but it does AMAZING things. It uses a gentle brush like a surgical scrub brush and you have a certain pattern in which you brush each area. Some areas are NEVER brushed because it can cause real problems. With thank you we have a much happier, calmer child who has a lot more fun and copes better. It seemed like magic the first couple of weeks. he even feels more confident - we don't hear him say he hates himself anymore. He is only on medications for his asthma, so improvement is solely due to the brushing. </p><p> </p><p>Aspies are diagnosed Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) when the obsessions and compulsions (such as not being able to wear shorts after tehy tough husband or use hte keyboard after husband uses it) are significant enough to hamper daily life. some of this is just part of Aspergers. But when it goes to an extreme, tehn it can be helpful to add medications. Usually SSRIs are used. They don't have great luck in kids though. many go very manic on them - even those who do NOT have bipolar. Jess was high as a kite when we trialed prozac and zoloft to help with the PTSD. It wasn't fun at all. </p><p> </p><p>I think it is time to push for more testing - and include the Occupational Therapist (OT) testing. it might be helpful to find the OTs your insurance will cover and take that to the psychiatrist. I often call the specialist office before going for a referral - I ask if referrals are needed and how long it will take to get in for the evaluation. That way we can be seen as soon as possible.</p><p> </p><p>Sorry all this is going on. Please give your husband a copy of the Explosive Child or Love and Logic parenting (whichever you prefer) and ask him to read it. Or talk to him about hte various things in the book - some of our dads here have a hard time with the various books. My husband refused a lot of the concepts until I bought a copy of the Love and Logic book. It really made sense to him, far more than any other book we used. L&L also has audiobooks and a great website ( <a href="http://www.loveandlogic.com" target="_blank">www.loveandlogic.com</a>). Listen/read as much as possible on the site - even the stuff for teachers can be helpful at home.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 189994, member: 1233"] It certinaly sounds like there is a lot going on. I would not say it is behavioral. i think your husband needs to get on board or stay out of htings - traditional parenting is a recipe for disaster with our kids. I am NOT saying he is a bad person or bad parent - just that he does not understand and really NEEDS to in order to help the family. Manster (love the nickname by the way) sounds like he has some Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) in there. also many sensory issues. I would look for a private Occupational Therapist (OT) to do a thorough sensory integration evaluation. The school does have OTs and will evaluate - but they ONLY evaluate for what they think will impact his education. School OTs do NOT evaluate for what will impact life separate from school. in my opinion they miss a LOT. our first school Occupational Therapist (OT) told me that thank you didn't have any sensory issues. WRONG!!! He has them in every group they test for (for each sense). It was having a HUGE impact on school. We use brushing therapy. You have to learn it from an Occupational Therapist (OT), but it does AMAZING things. It uses a gentle brush like a surgical scrub brush and you have a certain pattern in which you brush each area. Some areas are NEVER brushed because it can cause real problems. With thank you we have a much happier, calmer child who has a lot more fun and copes better. It seemed like magic the first couple of weeks. he even feels more confident - we don't hear him say he hates himself anymore. He is only on medications for his asthma, so improvement is solely due to the brushing. Aspies are diagnosed Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) when the obsessions and compulsions (such as not being able to wear shorts after tehy tough husband or use hte keyboard after husband uses it) are significant enough to hamper daily life. some of this is just part of Aspergers. But when it goes to an extreme, tehn it can be helpful to add medications. Usually SSRIs are used. They don't have great luck in kids though. many go very manic on them - even those who do NOT have bipolar. Jess was high as a kite when we trialed prozac and zoloft to help with the PTSD. It wasn't fun at all. I think it is time to push for more testing - and include the Occupational Therapist (OT) testing. it might be helpful to find the OTs your insurance will cover and take that to the psychiatrist. I often call the specialist office before going for a referral - I ask if referrals are needed and how long it will take to get in for the evaluation. That way we can be seen as soon as possible. Sorry all this is going on. Please give your husband a copy of the Explosive Child or Love and Logic parenting (whichever you prefer) and ask him to read it. Or talk to him about hte various things in the book - some of our dads here have a hard time with the various books. My husband refused a lot of the concepts until I bought a copy of the Love and Logic book. It really made sense to him, far more than any other book we used. L&L also has audiobooks and a great website ( [URL="http://www.loveandlogic.com"]www.loveandlogic.com[/URL]). Listen/read as much as possible on the site - even the stuff for teachers can be helpful at home. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
What to Make of Recent Meltdown
Top