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What to say and what NOT to say about death
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<blockquote data-quote="nvts" data-source="post: 246681" data-attributes="member: 3814"><p>Hey Star...I'm still so sorry for you having to go through this...again. </p><p> </p><p>Personally? I don't think this is going to be something that you're "prepared for" when you see his mom. Right now she's on autopilot and "mothering" you is probably helping her appear strong and maintain her emotions during the "public" portion of the whole ordeal.</p><p> </p><p>I think you need to feel what you feel, because that's going to do one of two things for her.</p><p> </p><p>1. that it's ok to have a meltdown if she needs to at any time </p><p> </p><p>OR</p><p> </p><p>2. it'll allow her to "tend" to you so that she can push the whole thing (public emotion mind you) to the side.</p><p> </p><p>A hug, a smile, whatever comes naturally will be the most sincere. </p><p> </p><p>I love you for being so careful for this poor woman. She's delicate and will need a lot of handholding after all of the hullaballoo is over and done with. She'll definately appreciate so much more once things quiet down (a couple of weeks after).</p><p> </p><p>I wish I would win the lottery - I'd call the funeral home myself and make the arrangements, unfortunately right now, a lottery ticket is too expensive.</p><p> </p><p>Beth</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nvts, post: 246681, member: 3814"] Hey Star...I'm still so sorry for you having to go through this...again. Personally? I don't think this is going to be something that you're "prepared for" when you see his mom. Right now she's on autopilot and "mothering" you is probably helping her appear strong and maintain her emotions during the "public" portion of the whole ordeal. I think you need to feel what you feel, because that's going to do one of two things for her. 1. that it's ok to have a meltdown if she needs to at any time OR 2. it'll allow her to "tend" to you so that she can push the whole thing (public emotion mind you) to the side. A hug, a smile, whatever comes naturally will be the most sincere. I love you for being so careful for this poor woman. She's delicate and will need a lot of handholding after all of the hullaballoo is over and done with. She'll definately appreciate so much more once things quiet down (a couple of weeks after). I wish I would win the lottery - I'd call the funeral home myself and make the arrangements, unfortunately right now, a lottery ticket is too expensive. Beth [/QUOTE]
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