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<blockquote data-quote="everywoman" data-source="post: 352704" data-attributes="member: 1436"><p>Parenting an adult child is so much more difficult. There are lines that can't be crossed. All of mine are adults now. My oldest and youngest are easy child's. Of course they have had their typical teen moments, but they are without the issues that my middle son has presented. I have tried to treat them all the way they needed to be treated at the time. difficult child has always been more needy. I tended to (and still do) enable him the most. Why? Because he really needs me more than the others. Because emotionally and socially he is years behind in development. He is better because I have detached more and more. When he calls and is in the middle of a rage, I hand up. I will no longer let him live with me, although he is welcomed to come and visit. I do provide gas and food when he runs short, because he is working and trying to build a life---when he stops, the support stops. There is no "answer." I feel my way through and hope that what I am doing is right. When I see that it isn't, I change. I have found the thing I can change is the way I react to the way he acts. That has been the biggest help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="everywoman, post: 352704, member: 1436"] Parenting an adult child is so much more difficult. There are lines that can't be crossed. All of mine are adults now. My oldest and youngest are easy child's. Of course they have had their typical teen moments, but they are without the issues that my middle son has presented. I have tried to treat them all the way they needed to be treated at the time. difficult child has always been more needy. I tended to (and still do) enable him the most. Why? Because he really needs me more than the others. Because emotionally and socially he is years behind in development. He is better because I have detached more and more. When he calls and is in the middle of a rage, I hand up. I will no longer let him live with me, although he is welcomed to come and visit. I do provide gas and food when he runs short, because he is working and trying to build a life---when he stops, the support stops. There is no "answer." I feel my way through and hope that what I am doing is right. When I see that it isn't, I change. I have found the thing I can change is the way I react to the way he acts. That has been the biggest help. [/QUOTE]
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