My Mom and I were speaking this weekend and Dude had stayed at the house for the weekend. I told him I didn't mind if he checked out stuff on line - and even his My space page (I have LOST that battle) I just don't care anymore. So there I am going down the hall to my office, my computer and I see on the floor a Hershey kiss, in the wrapper and Pootie is eating it! OMG he's three feet from her and HEY how in the H did you get MY candy? Then I see my chair has been readjusted, my wrist gel pad is thrown on the floor, there is a cup with liquid ON my tower....(urge to kill) and my digital camera is sitting there - but the rechargeable battery is on the desk and HEY how.....where .......WERE YOU USING MY CAMERA? OMG he put regular batteries in it..and HEY - where did you get those NEW batteries? OMG - YOU ARE 18 FREAKING YEARS OLD - this is MY house and you just ...... And I wasn't like I used to be, in as much as I didn't yell or carry on but I was AMAZED that he had just "gone" through my stuff without a care. Then he got up- kicked my chair cover (which HE hates) and said "I'm outta here." and left. He has a car. He earned the money - he has NO license, no insurance, no tag, no registration - and he's been using Df's tools to fix this car up - and then he LEFT. OMG I was livid. DF came in and calmly said "He may not work on the car with his tools - as they were all laying all over the place and some are still missing." and then I said to my Mom "OMG why WHY can't I stop with this kid?" If ANYONE treated me like he just did - I'd NEVER speak to them again. But he does it to me over and over and my Mom said "Tell him he can't come to the house anymore." and I'm thinking - Here I was SO proud of myself for NOT getting upset or yelling and being cool and then everyone tells me "Youre an idiot." (in essence) and I have to agree. Other than this incident he's been doing pretty good - but when he got home - he called and said the foster parents' son took his battery out of his car. NOT TO WORRY (OH I wasn't) YOU BIG DUMMY. Then he tells me last night that someoen backed into his car - but not to worry THEY had a car JUST LIKE IT they would sell (SELL) him for $500 - and then this guy that backed into his car would paint his car for free (of course the 500.00 is not free moron) but they see him coming. ANd I wonder WHY he hasn't graduated. I just wondered after all this last night what I should do differently. I'm usually pretty strong - but I swear I don't know IF I let my guard down or if I'm just too tired to battle with him or if this isn't one of those things that you say DO NOT COME BACK. (which is where my family is leaning) I just thought he was smarter than that. Really I did. But then again I thought I was smarter than this. Apparently not. I'm not having problems with the fact that he invaded my space/stuff and used stuff without asking - I'm having a problem with the fact that I allowed him to do it in the first place. I guess I'll go back to locking the doors when he comes........this is just carp. Thanks I guess in hindsite what would YOU have done differently now that you know what you know.