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toughlovin
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Hi all,
Well I know none of us with difficult children young adults are talking "normal" but I am sort of trying to figure out what is typical or a normal amount of contact with a young adult child when they are away from home? I know I talked to my mother weekly my whole life until she died. We were very close though. I know my husband does not call his parents all that often, often they call him.
Our difficult child is currently in rehab, and in a couple of weeks will move into sober living. He has had his cell phone the whole time and certainly texts us or calls if he needs something.... but no real other time. I kind of feel like I need to just wait and let him call or text me when he wants... as part of me letting go.
I know that part of the work he needs to do is to separate from us and not feel dependent on us... that is good for him and for us. Yet i feel better when I hear from him..... I also know right now he is safe while he is at the rehab, it is all going to feel more uncertain when he is more on his own. So I somehow need to get used to this.
Anyway just wondering how the rest of you deal with this issue with both your easy child adult children and your difficult child adult children.
Well I know none of us with difficult children young adults are talking "normal" but I am sort of trying to figure out what is typical or a normal amount of contact with a young adult child when they are away from home? I know I talked to my mother weekly my whole life until she died. We were very close though. I know my husband does not call his parents all that often, often they call him.
Our difficult child is currently in rehab, and in a couple of weeks will move into sober living. He has had his cell phone the whole time and certainly texts us or calls if he needs something.... but no real other time. I kind of feel like I need to just wait and let him call or text me when he wants... as part of me letting go.
I know that part of the work he needs to do is to separate from us and not feel dependent on us... that is good for him and for us. Yet i feel better when I hear from him..... I also know right now he is safe while he is at the rehab, it is all going to feel more uncertain when he is more on his own. So I somehow need to get used to this.
Anyway just wondering how the rest of you deal with this issue with both your easy child adult children and your difficult child adult children.