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"What's surprising is that we don't have a dozen kids"...
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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 478552" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Thank you all for the thoughtful and caring replies. </p><p></p><p>I think the idea of going to OBGYN with daughter in law is a good one for sure...Assuming she will let me go with her. I know she hasn't seen a DR yet. </p><p></p><p>Janet, unfortunately both of thier children are fairly complacent. Granddaughter has alot of "fire" in her and is quite smart but she will lay down and go to sleep on request...so unlike my difficult child son's when they were little. I know daughter in law thinks it's all about the parenting so far...thinks that their children are so well behaved because they are doing such a wonderful job. LOL...they have just lucked out so far and not gotten a full-blown difficult child. I keep telling her that you don't become a "bad" parent just because you have a challenging/difficult child...I am one who happens to believe strongly in genetic predisposition/leaning etc. Yes, nurturing helps but if there is that natural bend toward (fill in blank) being a difficult child etc I think you're just stuck with it and life is more difficult for all concerned. </p><p></p><p>So...I was picking up some rice on the floor young difficult child had spilled from container on way to trash can and asked if he could clean up the rest. Young difficult child then goes onto to tell me about all the dirty diapers he's changed lately. Good Grief...they're HIS KIDS. And if they'd get granddaughter fully potty trained they wouldn't have this problem...Geez. </p><p></p><p>Meanwhile, Young difficult child has what we believe will be his last court appearance for the "reckless child endangerment" charge. His next court date is this next wednesday. It will be the 4th time I have taken him to court...Young difficult child said the DA wants to talk to daughter in law before dismissing the case.</p><p>He also says that Amarillo (where he got the felony charge several yrs ago for spitting at police) is violating him for the RCE charge and putting him in jail at some point. He is very concerned about going to jail. Personally I think jail for him is a good place for him to completely sober up. He still finds ways to buy alcohol and I frequently see it around the house (under cabinets in closets etc). </p><p>Because young difficult child insists on remaining in the problem, husband, is not willing to pay for additional counceling for him at this time...says it's "good money after bad" as we did for so many many years when difficult child's were teenager. Money is tight right now and husband seems to be getting more and more frustrated with young difficult child not having a job and supporting his family...of course young difficult child says he can't because of pending charges, court dates, jail time, etc. </p><p>Gratefully there hasn't been anymore self harm/suicidal threats or actions lately. </p><p></p><p>Life goes on...</p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 478552, member: 3305"] Thank you all for the thoughtful and caring replies. I think the idea of going to OBGYN with daughter in law is a good one for sure...Assuming she will let me go with her. I know she hasn't seen a DR yet. Janet, unfortunately both of thier children are fairly complacent. Granddaughter has alot of "fire" in her and is quite smart but she will lay down and go to sleep on request...so unlike my difficult child son's when they were little. I know daughter in law thinks it's all about the parenting so far...thinks that their children are so well behaved because they are doing such a wonderful job. LOL...they have just lucked out so far and not gotten a full-blown difficult child. I keep telling her that you don't become a "bad" parent just because you have a challenging/difficult child...I am one who happens to believe strongly in genetic predisposition/leaning etc. Yes, nurturing helps but if there is that natural bend toward (fill in blank) being a difficult child etc I think you're just stuck with it and life is more difficult for all concerned. So...I was picking up some rice on the floor young difficult child had spilled from container on way to trash can and asked if he could clean up the rest. Young difficult child then goes onto to tell me about all the dirty diapers he's changed lately. Good Grief...they're HIS KIDS. And if they'd get granddaughter fully potty trained they wouldn't have this problem...Geez. Meanwhile, Young difficult child has what we believe will be his last court appearance for the "reckless child endangerment" charge. His next court date is this next wednesday. It will be the 4th time I have taken him to court...Young difficult child said the DA wants to talk to daughter in law before dismissing the case. He also says that Amarillo (where he got the felony charge several yrs ago for spitting at police) is violating him for the RCE charge and putting him in jail at some point. He is very concerned about going to jail. Personally I think jail for him is a good place for him to completely sober up. He still finds ways to buy alcohol and I frequently see it around the house (under cabinets in closets etc). Because young difficult child insists on remaining in the problem, husband, is not willing to pay for additional counceling for him at this time...says it's "good money after bad" as we did for so many many years when difficult child's were teenager. Money is tight right now and husband seems to be getting more and more frustrated with young difficult child not having a job and supporting his family...of course young difficult child says he can't because of pending charges, court dates, jail time, etc. Gratefully there hasn't been anymore self harm/suicidal threats or actions lately. Life goes on... LMS [/QUOTE]
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