I thought I will try a new aproach with the new year!!!! I bought a book yesterday: Dont fix me I'm not broken, by Sally Patton. Ok...she says: " Parenting is a spiritual classroom. When we embrace this idea we can look at ways to see beyond the diagnostic label to the wholeness of spirit in every child so we do not give power to the label." ".......any encounter with your child is a holy encounter, especially those moments that push us into the depths of despair. It is how we choose to ultimately handle those moments that either mires us in the "why me" syndrome or sets us free." " The highest motive in life is to be like water. It fights nothing or no one. It flows to and from its source and in the flowing smoothes and wears away all resistance." My husband was a bit sinical about all this! Oh man! I am trying to become a bit more positive!