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<blockquote data-quote="maxeygirls" data-source="post: 344712" data-attributes="member: 8869"><p>I've had to find my own technique which I sometimes call 'shock and awe' but it's one my mother said she used when children in her classrooms got into situations like this. Keep in mind this was 30+ years ago but the limitations of reaching out and grabbing a kid were still there. At one point she had a kid pretty much snap in science class and to even get close enough to try to pull him off the other student would have resulted in her own injury. She grabbed a glass, put about an inch of cold water in it and splashed it on the student's face. Now this kid was much older than yours but still the reaction was powerful. He just stopped, looked up at her and sort of moved away. </p><p>I tested this theory with my difficult child about a month ago when she was having a terrible day and pretty much had it in her mind to see just how much she could torture one of the cats. She had him in a dangerous situation where if she continued with what she was doing she could have severely injured or killed him but if she didnt move away quickly he'd claw her open in self defense. I had a spray bottle nearby so I grabbed it and shot it at her right in the face. I had already tried to talk to her, gently move her, yell at her, she was off in difficult child-Land. The water made her jump back, the cat escaped and she looked at me funny but never once yelled "you hurt me!" like she does when I grab her arm or pick her up. About 2 minutes later she said her apologies to the cat, then to me. So far it works for those tricky situations but I'm careful only to use this method when someone is about to get hurt and I can't stop it the typical way. I'm just throwing a suggestion out there, may work or maybe not. </p><p>I do understand the head hitting thing though, I've seen it with other difficult children Ive seen but I'm not sure why. Oh and yes I've used the glass of water trick on another child who was in my care frequently for several years. The tantrums were so intense although not violent that the child would become sick and also hyperventilate. Worked in that situation too, the only difference was the mood didnt just vanish, the child would cling to me for about 20 minutes afterwards.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="maxeygirls, post: 344712, member: 8869"] I've had to find my own technique which I sometimes call 'shock and awe' but it's one my mother said she used when children in her classrooms got into situations like this. Keep in mind this was 30+ years ago but the limitations of reaching out and grabbing a kid were still there. At one point she had a kid pretty much snap in science class and to even get close enough to try to pull him off the other student would have resulted in her own injury. She grabbed a glass, put about an inch of cold water in it and splashed it on the student's face. Now this kid was much older than yours but still the reaction was powerful. He just stopped, looked up at her and sort of moved away. I tested this theory with my difficult child about a month ago when she was having a terrible day and pretty much had it in her mind to see just how much she could torture one of the cats. She had him in a dangerous situation where if she continued with what she was doing she could have severely injured or killed him but if she didnt move away quickly he'd claw her open in self defense. I had a spray bottle nearby so I grabbed it and shot it at her right in the face. I had already tried to talk to her, gently move her, yell at her, she was off in difficult child-Land. The water made her jump back, the cat escaped and she looked at me funny but never once yelled "you hurt me!" like she does when I grab her arm or pick her up. About 2 minutes later she said her apologies to the cat, then to me. So far it works for those tricky situations but I'm careful only to use this method when someone is about to get hurt and I can't stop it the typical way. I'm just throwing a suggestion out there, may work or maybe not. I do understand the head hitting thing though, I've seen it with other difficult children Ive seen but I'm not sure why. Oh and yes I've used the glass of water trick on another child who was in my care frequently for several years. The tantrums were so intense although not violent that the child would become sick and also hyperventilate. Worked in that situation too, the only difference was the mood didnt just vanish, the child would cling to me for about 20 minutes afterwards. [/QUOTE]
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