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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 298323" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I have to toss in here. My difficult child never was invited to spend time with my family without me there...or with easy child's. My Asperger's gs difficult child has only been invited by my oldest easy child to spend time at her home. As much as everyone has always loved easy child/difficult child, he is not invited to do a vacation week anymore like he was before the brain injury and the addiction onset.</p><p> </p><p>It may not be "nice" but I understand. Children with problems are stressful or have the potential for interjecting the unpredicatable. Most of us prefer the comfort of sameness in daily living. In theory we would all embrace each other and all the family members in love and joy. I don't think that is realistic. </p><p> </p><p>What I do think is realistic is feeling safe sharing "some" of the anguish that comes from parenting a special needs child or children. Families usually love their sibling or offspring. That same love does not pass on to the next generation. Usually the special children have not spent enough time with the extended family to have bonded....even when they live in the same community.</p><p> </p><p>I don't think your situation is that unusual, Linda. The POA brings a long term burden and responsibility. I bet fewer than 20&#37; of parents with special kids have anyone jumping to make a commitment. Hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 298323, member: 35"] I have to toss in here. My difficult child never was invited to spend time with my family without me there...or with easy child's. My Asperger's gs difficult child has only been invited by my oldest easy child to spend time at her home. As much as everyone has always loved easy child/difficult child, he is not invited to do a vacation week anymore like he was before the brain injury and the addiction onset. It may not be "nice" but I understand. Children with problems are stressful or have the potential for interjecting the unpredicatable. Most of us prefer the comfort of sameness in daily living. In theory we would all embrace each other and all the family members in love and joy. I don't think that is realistic. What I do think is realistic is feeling safe sharing "some" of the anguish that comes from parenting a special needs child or children. Families usually love their sibling or offspring. That same love does not pass on to the next generation. Usually the special children have not spent enough time with the extended family to have bonded....even when they live in the same community. I don't think your situation is that unusual, Linda. The POA brings a long term burden and responsibility. I bet fewer than 20% of parents with special kids have anyone jumping to make a commitment. Hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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