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When a terrific DEX turns into a difficult child x 10 (I'm gobsmacked)
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 382099" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>You are an AWESOME mom raising an AWESOME daughter!!! ALL it will take to have a judge sever his rights is to show how he made her dress and act like a boy for so many years, to her social and emotional harm. in my opinion he was ONLY "phenomenal" over scheduling and THAT was because he got her half the time instead of what the judge ordered. He was "winning" by getting more from you on a regular scheduled basis than the judge ordered. The way she acted over the boy stuff shows you that he did little long term harm emotionally with the boy stuff, though she may suffer socially for a while, possibly a long while depending on the other kids and how she lets them treat her. She obviously has been afraid for many years that if she did NOT do what he wanted, even when she was with you, that he would not love her. </p><p> </p><p>in my opinion that is NOT NOT NOT being "phenomenal" as a father. I am very willing to bet that if you had kept the schedule to what the judge ordered then he would have had you in court over and over during the last years. </p><p> </p><p>I see a whole lot of awesome in your parenting and flexibility and the way easy child felt she could do what she wanted/needed while at your home, even if it was to keep to what her father insisted she do/wear/act like. in my opinion now is the time to take her out to buy some new girly things - expect that he will NOT contribute one penny toward clothing for her now that she won't dress the way he wants. </p><p> </p><p>I am glad she is such a strong, insightful young woman, and that she now has the strength to fight against his bullying - it says a LOT about how she will stand up to peer pressure!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 382099, member: 1233"] You are an AWESOME mom raising an AWESOME daughter!!! ALL it will take to have a judge sever his rights is to show how he made her dress and act like a boy for so many years, to her social and emotional harm. in my opinion he was ONLY "phenomenal" over scheduling and THAT was because he got her half the time instead of what the judge ordered. He was "winning" by getting more from you on a regular scheduled basis than the judge ordered. The way she acted over the boy stuff shows you that he did little long term harm emotionally with the boy stuff, though she may suffer socially for a while, possibly a long while depending on the other kids and how she lets them treat her. She obviously has been afraid for many years that if she did NOT do what he wanted, even when she was with you, that he would not love her. in my opinion that is NOT NOT NOT being "phenomenal" as a father. I am very willing to bet that if you had kept the schedule to what the judge ordered then he would have had you in court over and over during the last years. I see a whole lot of awesome in your parenting and flexibility and the way easy child felt she could do what she wanted/needed while at your home, even if it was to keep to what her father insisted she do/wear/act like. in my opinion now is the time to take her out to buy some new girly things - expect that he will NOT contribute one penny toward clothing for her now that she won't dress the way he wants. I am glad she is such a strong, insightful young woman, and that she now has the strength to fight against his bullying - it says a LOT about how she will stand up to peer pressure! [/QUOTE]
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