A little back story.....I have posted before about my pot smoking college student who has a penchant for hanging around criminals, a habit that has cost him and me dearly he is now 21. Last time when I posted about him was in March last year when he had been arrested for violating probation after he was caught with a drug dealer carrying some percocet pills. The authorities put him in jail for six months last summer and let him out to go back to college in September 4th. Luckily the new charges were dropped and his cwaf(continued without a finding) for the original charge was put back on and the judge promised to relieve him from probation I this august -two years earlier if he stays out of trouble. Since sep. difficult child has been doing well. He enrolled in two classes of college(the maximum he could take because he had been suspended for poor grades) and found a part time job at kohls. He has been reporting to probation on time, helps with chores around the house, is pleasant and respectful and only goes out on Saturdays with the same friends who are semi-difficult children. Along the way I have enabled him here and there like helping him get a phone and letting him use my car to go to work and on Saturday. But in the last two weeks difficult child's habits have started to change. His hours at kohls have dried up and he is only getting 8 hrs a week. He has applied for jobs in other places and is waiting. Meanwhile, a cna job he had interviewed for last week fell through after the company did a cori check and they receded on the offer the morning he was supposed to start. Since then difficult child has been spending his days and nights on the sofa. When I come home after work, the dishes are still on the sink and he has no desire or is unwilling to do anything even going for more than 2 days without a shower. I know he is not on pot(his drug of choice) because he is tested regularly as part of his probation. So I don't know what to think of this sudden change. Today, while I was going through my bank account charges over the phone, I discovered a cashed check of 40 dollars that I hadn't issued. When I came home in the evening I asked difficult child if he had taken my check book and stolen money from me(he has stolen before) and he confessed that he took the money. For some reason, I went crazy and banged my difficult child with my pocket book for almost ten minutes(he is fine but shocked). I can't imagine going back to my life with difficult child pre-jail because I have done a lot of work on myself and detachment in the last year and was winning. However, I feel like I was making all the progress because difficult child was doing well and now I don't know how to handle the new challenges. I don't want to throw him out because he is making some progress, has signed up for 4 classes in the coming semester(he got 2 bs ) in his final exam for the concluded fall session, but I can't live with someone who is will steal from me. I am at an impasse and any advice or suggestions from you guys is what I am looking for. Happy new year everyone.