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<blockquote data-quote="Marcie Mac" data-source="post: 621564" data-attributes="member: 47"><p>Although I do not hardly post anymore, you have a valid point. I joined the forum when my difficult child (youngest) was 14, he will be turning 30 this month. I am the only one, I believe, who chose to keep my difficult child at home while going thru his difficult child'ness. Guess I have a high tolerance for bs, but since I grew up as a difficult child myself, and had a myrad of diagnosis's that were undiagnosed until later in life, to me, I wouldn't even consider letting him go homeless, and take the chance he may not survive. And in saying that, yes, I did have him arrested at times, was a constant advocate in his health care, and dealt with the school until he reached the age of 18 at which time, if he got in trouble, arrested, he learned to deal with that himself. He was never violent towards me, probably because he knew I didn't fear him, and would knock his head off his shoulders or die trying <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> </p><p> </p><p>I would never suggest to anyone else they take this tact - he and I have a unique relationship. I was willing to deal with the lying, cheating, drug use and keep him at home till he was done with his emotional age catching up to his chronological one. And for the most part, he has turned out ok. Last month he moved back home after living on his own for over a year (his landlord decided to redo the home and put it up for sale) He has his own computer repair business, and works part time in an office, and takes jobs in laying floors when they become available. He pays his bills, is polite and respectful for the most part (he still is a bit of a difficult child), so what I dedided to do worked. My eldest difficult child, on the other hand, who is a liar and master manlipitor, well, I walked away. Nothing I could do at her age if she couldn't get herself together. I knew she would be ok but don't have time for the drama.</p><p> </p><p>This has always been a soft place to land - take the advice you feel would work for your difficult child, and disregard the rest. You are the only one who knows them like no other. </p><p> </p><p>Marcie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marcie Mac, post: 621564, member: 47"] Although I do not hardly post anymore, you have a valid point. I joined the forum when my difficult child (youngest) was 14, he will be turning 30 this month. I am the only one, I believe, who chose to keep my difficult child at home while going thru his difficult child'ness. Guess I have a high tolerance for bs, but since I grew up as a difficult child myself, and had a myrad of diagnosis's that were undiagnosed until later in life, to me, I wouldn't even consider letting him go homeless, and take the chance he may not survive. And in saying that, yes, I did have him arrested at times, was a constant advocate in his health care, and dealt with the school until he reached the age of 18 at which time, if he got in trouble, arrested, he learned to deal with that himself. He was never violent towards me, probably because he knew I didn't fear him, and would knock his head off his shoulders or die trying :) I would never suggest to anyone else they take this tact - he and I have a unique relationship. I was willing to deal with the lying, cheating, drug use and keep him at home till he was done with his emotional age catching up to his chronological one. And for the most part, he has turned out ok. Last month he moved back home after living on his own for over a year (his landlord decided to redo the home and put it up for sale) He has his own computer repair business, and works part time in an office, and takes jobs in laying floors when they become available. He pays his bills, is polite and respectful for the most part (he still is a bit of a difficult child), so what I dedided to do worked. My eldest difficult child, on the other hand, who is a liar and master manlipitor, well, I walked away. Nothing I could do at her age if she couldn't get herself together. I knew she would be ok but don't have time for the drama. This has always been a soft place to land - take the advice you feel would work for your difficult child, and disregard the rest. You are the only one who knows them like no other. Marcie [/QUOTE]
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