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<blockquote data-quote="Big Bad Kitty" data-source="post: 145315" data-attributes="member: 3647"><p>Sweetie,</p><p></p><p>There is a difference between being lonely and being alone. </p><p></p><p>I am alone. And I am perfectly happy being alone. I am not a man hater or a man basher, I just know that at this point in my life, I am better off this way. I don't fault anyone, I don't regret anything, and I don't wish that it were any other way. I am finding myself. I know it sounds kitschy, but it is the truth. I was in my relationship with Matt for over 10 years. I lived and breathed him. I was Matt's wife. </p><p>I had no identity of my own.</p><p></p><p>I am using this time to decide what I like for me. When the time comes that I fins someone to share my life with again, it will be just that. Sharing my life. Not inhaling his exhale. </p><p></p><p>Take time for you. Join a bible study. Go to AlAnon (I've been preaching that for awhile!). Sign up for a painting class. Join a book club. Do something for YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU once a week. </p><p></p><p></p><p>The point is not to become stagnant and perfectly OK with being alone forever. The point is to be comfortable being alone, and not being <em>lonely</em> while you are alone. It will boost your self esteem. A guy would not mind dating a woman with 2 difficult children if she is holding her head high and is very sure of herself.</p><p></p><p>Big hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Big Bad Kitty, post: 145315, member: 3647"] Sweetie, There is a difference between being lonely and being alone. I am alone. And I am perfectly happy being alone. I am not a man hater or a man basher, I just know that at this point in my life, I am better off this way. I don't fault anyone, I don't regret anything, and I don't wish that it were any other way. I am finding myself. I know it sounds kitschy, but it is the truth. I was in my relationship with Matt for over 10 years. I lived and breathed him. I was Matt's wife. I had no identity of my own. I am using this time to decide what I like for me. When the time comes that I fins someone to share my life with again, it will be just that. Sharing my life. Not inhaling his exhale. Take time for you. Join a bible study. Go to AlAnon (I've been preaching that for awhile!). Sign up for a painting class. Join a book club. Do something for YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU once a week. The point is not to become stagnant and perfectly OK with being alone forever. The point is to be comfortable being alone, and not being [I]lonely[/I] while you are alone. It will boost your self esteem. A guy would not mind dating a woman with 2 difficult children if she is holding her head high and is very sure of herself. Big hugs. [/QUOTE]
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