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<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 259321" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>When do you start?</p><p></p><p>Whenever you feel like it. If you want the room but can't get rid of things yet, as other's have said, do the room, store husband's belongings and sort when you're ready.</p><p></p><p>If, however, you're not up to even going in the room yet.....well then...it's not time.</p><p></p><p>There is no set timetable on these things just as there is no set schedule for grief. You go at your own pace.</p><p></p><p>If, though, you really want to start doing SOMETHING, maybe start with the small things that you <u>know</u> you won't keep or give to someone....toothbrush, razor, deodorant...things like that. Personal items yes....but not ones that are likely to be handed down to Kt or Wm. </p><p></p><p>Or, maybe as you do laundry, slowly start taking over closet space or a dresser drawer. You don't have to get rid of husband's clothes but maybe just put them someplace else a little at a time and make decisions later.</p><p></p><p>I like your idea of making your room over but don't feel like you have to do it NOW. Do you ever watch Extreme Home Makeover? I've seen more than one episode where the parent is a widow/widower and, while the master bedroom is designed around the one person, there are still aspects of the spouse in the room. A picture, special belonging.....one episode put the husband's work boots in a prominent place in the home. </p><p></p><p>Make your plans, sketch out your ideas for your room but for the actual work....do what feels right WHEN it feels right. </p><p></p><p>HUGS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 259321, member: 2459"] When do you start? Whenever you feel like it. If you want the room but can't get rid of things yet, as other's have said, do the room, store husband's belongings and sort when you're ready. If, however, you're not up to even going in the room yet.....well then...it's not time. There is no set timetable on these things just as there is no set schedule for grief. You go at your own pace. If, though, you really want to start doing SOMETHING, maybe start with the small things that you [U]know[/U] you won't keep or give to someone....toothbrush, razor, deodorant...things like that. Personal items yes....but not ones that are likely to be handed down to Kt or Wm. Or, maybe as you do laundry, slowly start taking over closet space or a dresser drawer. You don't have to get rid of husband's clothes but maybe just put them someplace else a little at a time and make decisions later. I like your idea of making your room over but don't feel like you have to do it NOW. Do you ever watch Extreme Home Makeover? I've seen more than one episode where the parent is a widow/widower and, while the master bedroom is designed around the one person, there are still aspects of the spouse in the room. A picture, special belonging.....one episode put the husband's work boots in a prominent place in the home. Make your plans, sketch out your ideas for your room but for the actual work....do what feels right WHEN it feels right. HUGS [/QUOTE]
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