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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 147115" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>Hi,</p><p>Basket B is essentially pro-active or out of moment scenario where we collaborate with a kid to solve problems. Often a solution is not working out or not being followed through because there are still ' pathways' problem= cognitive skills which have to be worked on , so in the case of your son , we may put the ' orthodontic treatment ' in basket C , that is removing the trigger , but we are still left with a lacking cognitive skill such as executive funcrtions.</p><p>Sometimes solutions which alter the environment may be useful , using permanent 'braces' etc rather than things that are removed. maybe his dentist can come up with a plan , also maybe the dentist should impress on your child the importance of compliance with instructions for the success of his treatment and that maybe he should ask his parents for help, and reminders , coming up with a plan so he can find his equipment and be consistent in wearing them.</p><p></p><p>As far as trust goes , in my humble opinion he does not trust you or rather he does not feel comfortable to come to you for support when he ' screws up '. He has to learn that if he comes to you and says he has lost his equipment , there will be no blame , but rather problem solving , that you are there to help him find solutions that will work for him . Of course one solution would be as Fran said , postpone the treatment till when he is older. Usually when we are conditional using rules ,rewards and punishments we are making a statement that we do not trust a kid to be successful or not break a rule without reward and punisment , when we have expectations and they are not met , we realize we have a problem and can look for solutions. When rules are broken , the implication is to impose a punishment rather than problems to be solved.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 147115, member: 10"] Hi, Basket B is essentially pro-active or out of moment scenario where we collaborate with a kid to solve problems. Often a solution is not working out or not being followed through because there are still ' pathways' problem= cognitive skills which have to be worked on , so in the case of your son , we may put the ' orthodontic treatment ' in basket C , that is removing the trigger , but we are still left with a lacking cognitive skill such as executive funcrtions. Sometimes solutions which alter the environment may be useful , using permanent 'braces' etc rather than things that are removed. maybe his dentist can come up with a plan , also maybe the dentist should impress on your child the importance of compliance with instructions for the success of his treatment and that maybe he should ask his parents for help, and reminders , coming up with a plan so he can find his equipment and be consistent in wearing them. As far as trust goes , in my humble opinion he does not trust you or rather he does not feel comfortable to come to you for support when he ' screws up '. He has to learn that if he comes to you and says he has lost his equipment , there will be no blame , but rather problem solving , that you are there to help him find solutions that will work for him . Of course one solution would be as Fran said , postpone the treatment till when he is older. Usually when we are conditional using rules ,rewards and punishments we are making a statement that we do not trust a kid to be successful or not break a rule without reward and punisment , when we have expectations and they are not met , we realize we have a problem and can look for solutions. When rules are broken , the implication is to impose a punishment rather than problems to be solved. [/QUOTE]
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