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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 635086" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>I did drug test my difficult child, often. I started after she got into legal trouble as a juvenile because of it. I know many people who can smoke pot recreationally and nothing bad happens. I adopted my difficult child and know her background history so I had good reason to be worried about the gateway drug effect. Honestly if it had been my easy child I don't think I would have been as worried. But difficult child's grades, friends, behavior, all led me to believe this was a much more serious problem and included alcohol and very poor choices.</p><p></p><p>You can't force your son to go to NA. I don't know if this matters but the large majority of NA members in our area are heroin addicts. That was not a good environment for my difficult child to be around. Many are court ordered and not following the program.</p><p></p><p>I understand your worry, truly I do. I was standing in your shoes about nine years ago when my difficult child was 14 and smoking pot and drinking. We forced her into rehab and she lived in transitional housing (sober house) for almost a year. She is now living with her boyfriend, has a good steady job and a completely different person. She still drinks, does not use any drugs (is drug tested at work sporatically) and is very responsible in her life now. It took a long time and she will struggle financially forever probably, but I do not fear that she is an addict, at least I have not seen any indication in years.</p><p></p><p>I don't know if this helps. I found that I had to go with my gut. If my neighbor would have had the same things going on with her daughter she would have just assumed it was experimentation and she would have been right. I had to do what I did because my gut told me if I didn't step in she would make some choices that she could never undo.</p><p></p><p>As far as your last question, this is what my difficult child wrote on my fb page for my birthday: "Happy Birthday to this amazing woman!! You are always there for me and taught me what it means to be a family and how to love someone unconditionally. I can only hope I become half the woman you are! I love you with all my heart."</p><p></p><p>This was from someone who hated me just a few years back and told me she wished I would jump off the bridge and she would stand there and laugh.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 635086, member: 59"] I did drug test my difficult child, often. I started after she got into legal trouble as a juvenile because of it. I know many people who can smoke pot recreationally and nothing bad happens. I adopted my difficult child and know her background history so I had good reason to be worried about the gateway drug effect. Honestly if it had been my easy child I don't think I would have been as worried. But difficult child's grades, friends, behavior, all led me to believe this was a much more serious problem and included alcohol and very poor choices. You can't force your son to go to NA. I don't know if this matters but the large majority of NA members in our area are heroin addicts. That was not a good environment for my difficult child to be around. Many are court ordered and not following the program. I understand your worry, truly I do. I was standing in your shoes about nine years ago when my difficult child was 14 and smoking pot and drinking. We forced her into rehab and she lived in transitional housing (sober house) for almost a year. She is now living with her boyfriend, has a good steady job and a completely different person. She still drinks, does not use any drugs (is drug tested at work sporatically) and is very responsible in her life now. It took a long time and she will struggle financially forever probably, but I do not fear that she is an addict, at least I have not seen any indication in years. I don't know if this helps. I found that I had to go with my gut. If my neighbor would have had the same things going on with her daughter she would have just assumed it was experimentation and she would have been right. I had to do what I did because my gut told me if I didn't step in she would make some choices that she could never undo. As far as your last question, this is what my difficult child wrote on my fb page for my birthday: "Happy Birthday to this amazing woman!! You are always there for me and taught me what it means to be a family and how to love someone unconditionally. I can only hope I become half the woman you are! I love you with all my heart." This was from someone who hated me just a few years back and told me she wished I would jump off the bridge and she would stand there and laugh. [/QUOTE]
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