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When do you start random drug tests?
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 635335" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>This is good advice. It may sound harsh, but you can fool around for months and years---until they reach adulthood---begging and reasoning and waiting on them to do what seems like basic common sense. You have debilitating depression, get help. Simple, right? </p><p></p><p>Evidently not with difficult children. I spent way way too long trying to get my son to get help but I didn't crack down hard like this on the consequences of not getting help. I would make appointments, push him into the car, drag him to the office, go into the doctor's waiting room with him, go into the exam room with him, talk to the doctor separately, talk to my son about the medications, then...he wouldn't take the medications. Same with therapy. If he ever did go to therapy and actually sit down in the chair across from the therapist, he wouldn't talk. </p><p></p><p>You can lead a horse to water...</p><p></p><p>If I had cracked down on his life much more deliberately, and been consistent with it, and stuck to my guns, no matter what his excuse and reason-of-the-day was, perhaps....</p><p></p><p>You never know, but I wish so much I had done that. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Absolutely. Get his written permission with all of his current docs. If he doesn't give it, all of the above happens.</p><p></p><p>It's hard to be this tough, but your child's life is at stake here. He's 16 and you have two more years of influence. After that, you have very little.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 635335, member: 17542"] This is good advice. It may sound harsh, but you can fool around for months and years---until they reach adulthood---begging and reasoning and waiting on them to do what seems like basic common sense. You have debilitating depression, get help. Simple, right? Evidently not with difficult children. I spent way way too long trying to get my son to get help but I didn't crack down hard like this on the consequences of not getting help. I would make appointments, push him into the car, drag him to the office, go into the doctor's waiting room with him, go into the exam room with him, talk to the doctor separately, talk to my son about the medications, then...he wouldn't take the medications. Same with therapy. If he ever did go to therapy and actually sit down in the chair across from the therapist, he wouldn't talk. You can lead a horse to water... If I had cracked down on his life much more deliberately, and been consistent with it, and stuck to my guns, no matter what his excuse and reason-of-the-day was, perhaps.... You never know, but I wish so much I had done that. Absolutely. Get his written permission with all of his current docs. If he doesn't give it, all of the above happens. It's hard to be this tough, but your child's life is at stake here. He's 16 and you have two more years of influence. After that, you have very little. [/QUOTE]
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