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When does the messy eating stop?
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 537398" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I found a substantial amt of the messiness left when the kid had to stop and go treat the stains on the clothing after each meal/snack/eat-portunity when we were at home. They also had to pack low-wrinkle shirt if we had to go to the city -90min away- for any reason. They got to sweep the floor, and pick up any big messes. Soon they were more careful with food because they truly hated all that cleaning and mom making them do it again and again until they didn't miss any stains or bit of food on the floor (within reason, of course, depending on their age and ability).</p><p></p><p>Wiz had a sp ed class that ate bfast and lunch together and they worked on table manners at each meal. It made a big difference. This was 5th grade. </p><p></p><p>I think work on fine motor skills can help this greatly, and that it is mostly due to sensory issues and fine motor sklls/coordination issues. I would NOT avoid food just because they are mesy unless we had to go somewhere right after the meal. Kid need much practice andtime to learn to get these skills down, and always avoiding messy skills put them at a strong disadvantage.</p><p></p><p>I do allow each child to pick the type of stain treatment they like best - spray bottle, stain stick, whatever. I have found it makes them more likely to use it properly and it is no big deal to buy one for each kid or one for them to share. You go through the same amount either way. I don't buy 2 of the same product because then you get into 'he used mine' garbage. i don't play that game. So if they both like/use the same one, they share. My kid WERE responsible for making sure that we were told when they were low on stain remover. We asked when we made the list each week, and made them go and look to see if they were low. Runnng out totally meant paying for the next bottle/tube out of allowance, and it only happened one time. Wiz did it and the other 2 learned from his mistake. </p><p></p><p>Mostly I think it goes away as a problem when they either discover the opposite gender or they move out. </p><p></p><p>thank you is 12 and has trouble with utensils. It jut is who he is, and he mostly can clean up after himself now. He isn't great with a knife though. But he is getting better. When Wiz was in motessori preschool they had the kids cutting bread, etc with plastic knives by age 3 or 4. It helps develop not just table manners but also the coordination for writing and many other things. They were carefully supervised, 4 or so at a time using the knives, and it really did make a difference. Odd that I just thought of it, and how PROUD the kid were to be cutting things at the time. They made osme sort of snack with the cut up bread.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 537398, member: 1233"] I found a substantial amt of the messiness left when the kid had to stop and go treat the stains on the clothing after each meal/snack/eat-portunity when we were at home. They also had to pack low-wrinkle shirt if we had to go to the city -90min away- for any reason. They got to sweep the floor, and pick up any big messes. Soon they were more careful with food because they truly hated all that cleaning and mom making them do it again and again until they didn't miss any stains or bit of food on the floor (within reason, of course, depending on their age and ability). Wiz had a sp ed class that ate bfast and lunch together and they worked on table manners at each meal. It made a big difference. This was 5th grade. I think work on fine motor skills can help this greatly, and that it is mostly due to sensory issues and fine motor sklls/coordination issues. I would NOT avoid food just because they are mesy unless we had to go somewhere right after the meal. Kid need much practice andtime to learn to get these skills down, and always avoiding messy skills put them at a strong disadvantage. I do allow each child to pick the type of stain treatment they like best - spray bottle, stain stick, whatever. I have found it makes them more likely to use it properly and it is no big deal to buy one for each kid or one for them to share. You go through the same amount either way. I don't buy 2 of the same product because then you get into 'he used mine' garbage. i don't play that game. So if they both like/use the same one, they share. My kid WERE responsible for making sure that we were told when they were low on stain remover. We asked when we made the list each week, and made them go and look to see if they were low. Runnng out totally meant paying for the next bottle/tube out of allowance, and it only happened one time. Wiz did it and the other 2 learned from his mistake. Mostly I think it goes away as a problem when they either discover the opposite gender or they move out. thank you is 12 and has trouble with utensils. It jut is who he is, and he mostly can clean up after himself now. He isn't great with a knife though. But he is getting better. When Wiz was in motessori preschool they had the kids cutting bread, etc with plastic knives by age 3 or 4. It helps develop not just table manners but also the coordination for writing and many other things. They were carefully supervised, 4 or so at a time using the knives, and it really did make a difference. Odd that I just thought of it, and how PROUD the kid were to be cutting things at the time. They made osme sort of snack with the cut up bread. [/QUOTE]
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