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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 41449" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>Alfie Kohn holds that our love and parenting must be unconditional. Your love should not be made conditional on his behavior .Love withdrawel in my humble opinion is acting very difficult child , you did that , so I will do this and can also be perceived as rejection , what message are we giving ?. I think we have to look for moments where we can put things behind us and go forward. I believe kids go forward from positive experiences</p><p></p><p>here is a piece from an essay by Alfie Kohn on 'Unconditional Teaching'</p><p></p><p>Imagine that your students are invited to respond to a questionnaire several years after leaving the school. Theyre asked to indicate whether they agree or disagree and how strongly with statements such as: Even when I wasnt proud of how I acted, even when I didnt do the homework, even when I got low test scores or didnt seem interested in what was being taught, I knew that [insert your name here] still cared about me.</p><p></p><p>How would you like your students to answer that sort of question? How do you think they will answer it?</p><p></p><p>Unconditional love means that a kid perceives that a parent loves and cares for him despite his behavior.</p><p>Not easy</p><p></p><p>Allan</p><p></p><p>Allan</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 41449, member: 10"] Alfie Kohn holds that our love and parenting must be unconditional. Your love should not be made conditional on his behavior .Love withdrawel in my humble opinion is acting very difficult child , you did that , so I will do this and can also be perceived as rejection , what message are we giving ?. I think we have to look for moments where we can put things behind us and go forward. I believe kids go forward from positive experiences here is a piece from an essay by Alfie Kohn on 'Unconditional Teaching' Imagine that your students are invited to respond to a questionnaire several years after leaving the school. Theyre asked to indicate whether they agree or disagree and how strongly with statements such as: Even when I wasnt proud of how I acted, even when I didnt do the homework, even when I got low test scores or didnt seem interested in what was being taught, I knew that [insert your name here] still cared about me. How would you like your students to answer that sort of question? How do you think they will answer it? Unconditional love means that a kid perceives that a parent loves and cares for him despite his behavior. Not easy Allan Allan [/QUOTE]
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