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<blockquote data-quote="wakeupcall" data-source="post: 41614" data-attributes="member: 2287"><p>This is a good thread. I'm guilty of not being able to hug and kiss and croon and smile and be immediately forgiving (my son is eleven and no longer a toddler). I am human and more days than not he says the most horrible, ugly, disrespectful words to me and I think he knows exactly what he's saying and doing and being manipulative. Let's see...I think I want to call that "control". I don't believe in the "Sticks and stones..." philosphy. Whether difficult child can help it or not, his treatment of me for years and years has had a profound effect on me. I know some of you are going to say this paragraph has a lot of "Me" in it, but all the years of trying so desperately to make a difference and have it shoved in my face day after day has almost pushed me over the edge. I DO love him...with all my heart, but I find myself going into self-preservation mode. Obviously, what we've done for eight years has made no difference whatsoever.........and we're talking nonstop medications, therapy, and behavior mods since he was four years old.</p><p></p><p>And yes, I do things for myself, but I always have to come back in a few hours to face again the mistreatment. And yes, now I'm on medications for depression.</p><p></p><p>There are days that are better than others with him, but never what I would call a good day, never.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="wakeupcall, post: 41614, member: 2287"] This is a good thread. I'm guilty of not being able to hug and kiss and croon and smile and be immediately forgiving (my son is eleven and no longer a toddler). I am human and more days than not he says the most horrible, ugly, disrespectful words to me and I think he knows exactly what he's saying and doing and being manipulative. Let's see...I think I want to call that "control". I don't believe in the "Sticks and stones..." philosphy. Whether difficult child can help it or not, his treatment of me for years and years has had a profound effect on me. I know some of you are going to say this paragraph has a lot of "Me" in it, but all the years of trying so desperately to make a difference and have it shoved in my face day after day has almost pushed me over the edge. I DO love him...with all my heart, but I find myself going into self-preservation mode. Obviously, what we've done for eight years has made no difference whatsoever.........and we're talking nonstop medications, therapy, and behavior mods since he was four years old. And yes, I do things for myself, but I always have to come back in a few hours to face again the mistreatment. And yes, now I'm on medications for depression. There are days that are better than others with him, but never what I would call a good day, never. [/QUOTE]
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