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<blockquote data-quote="Big Bad Kitty" data-source="post: 41783" data-attributes="member: 3647"><p>Sharon, your post made me well up with tears.</p><p></p><p>I have been following this thread from the beginning, and I stick with my belief that if a child asks for a hug, it is OK to give them a hug. For whatever reason, I never went back in my mind to my childhood until just now. </p><p></p><p>Like Heather said, I know now that the love from my parents was unconditional, but growing up, I did not know it. My mom beat the ever-loving **** out of me growing up. My dad was never home. </p><p></p><p>As I said before, if I need to take a time out because I am angry, I take a time out. IF difficult child needs a hug, she gets a hug. If I don't feel like giving her one right away, I tell her that I love her, that I am not exactly happy with her right now, but that I DO love her. And she does get that hug. Again, I agree with Heather, this may be her way of apologizing. In my difficult child's young mind, it may even be a way of making sure she is still OK, or not a monster. You know, after a meltdown that shw has had no control over.</p><p></p><p>And I make sure I tell her I love her many MANY times a day.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Big Bad Kitty, post: 41783, member: 3647"] Sharon, your post made me well up with tears. I have been following this thread from the beginning, and I stick with my belief that if a child asks for a hug, it is OK to give them a hug. For whatever reason, I never went back in my mind to my childhood until just now. Like Heather said, I know now that the love from my parents was unconditional, but growing up, I did not know it. My mom beat the ever-loving **** out of me growing up. My dad was never home. As I said before, if I need to take a time out because I am angry, I take a time out. IF difficult child needs a hug, she gets a hug. If I don't feel like giving her one right away, I tell her that I love her, that I am not exactly happy with her right now, but that I DO love her. And she does get that hug. Again, I agree with Heather, this may be her way of apologizing. In my difficult child's young mind, it may even be a way of making sure she is still OK, or not a monster. You know, after a meltdown that shw has had no control over. And I make sure I tell her I love her many MANY times a day. [/QUOTE]
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