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<blockquote data-quote="Burndoubt" data-source="post: 276857" data-attributes="member: 7493"><p>Wow... it's almost overwhelming to have so many people backing me up.. Thank you all for your input.</p><p>I wrote & re-wrote so many pages for here, and each time I realized how very much I sounded like an abuse victim: 'I love ___ BUT'... or 'it only happens when', & the like. I just keep deleting & re-writing, but it's still the same stuff.</p><p>difficult child HAS come a long way. I can't forgive him for what he's done to easy child#2 and our family. I tried getting a counselor. Her advise, to hug difficult child and write him letters of praise. I wanted anger management, not warm fuzzies to hand to someone who hurt my children.</p><p>husband corrects difficult child IF difficult child steps out of line while husband is around. difficult child's careful to not act up while Dad's home. I get the biggest helping of that.</p><p>All difficult child's counselors believe difficult child's mother damaged him in some way(s), causing alot of this heartache. She's a mess, a child of abuse herself, who continued the cycle, sadly. She informed husband she wasn't quitting her good paying job to come & get her son after being informed he'd penetrated his 1/2 sister with his finger. (still makes me ill to say/write that, but for clarification...) In fact, she's still mad at us for informing the authorities.</p><p>I am actually looking forward to husband taking this job, IF he'll indeed keep his end of the deal by sending difficult child somewhere else. How horrible am I, to be willing to lose my husband, the father of my children, for a month @ a time, in order to be free from a child? No one will take him. CPS guaranteed us that if we sent him to the local boy's home, he'd be more damaged coming out than he went in. How horrible!!</p><p>I don't want him hurt. I don't want him to feel like I hate him. I know he's sick. I don't understand what's sick, and what's just... intentionally bad, I guess. How does one differentiate? How does a person forgive, and why?</p><p>I'm so tired of being angry and scared and doubting myself.</p><p>Almost forgot, I've been in a women's shelter. Some of the most horrifying days of my life. I would not take my daughters there.</p><p>Thank you again for your backup and supportive encouragements. It is truly appreciated.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Burndoubt, post: 276857, member: 7493"] Wow... it's almost overwhelming to have so many people backing me up.. Thank you all for your input. I wrote & re-wrote so many pages for here, and each time I realized how very much I sounded like an abuse victim: 'I love ___ BUT'... or 'it only happens when', & the like. I just keep deleting & re-writing, but it's still the same stuff. difficult child HAS come a long way. I can't forgive him for what he's done to easy child#2 and our family. I tried getting a counselor. Her advise, to hug difficult child and write him letters of praise. I wanted anger management, not warm fuzzies to hand to someone who hurt my children. husband corrects difficult child IF difficult child steps out of line while husband is around. difficult child's careful to not act up while Dad's home. I get the biggest helping of that. All difficult child's counselors believe difficult child's mother damaged him in some way(s), causing alot of this heartache. She's a mess, a child of abuse herself, who continued the cycle, sadly. She informed husband she wasn't quitting her good paying job to come & get her son after being informed he'd penetrated his 1/2 sister with his finger. (still makes me ill to say/write that, but for clarification...) In fact, she's still mad at us for informing the authorities. I am actually looking forward to husband taking this job, IF he'll indeed keep his end of the deal by sending difficult child somewhere else. How horrible am I, to be willing to lose my husband, the father of my children, for a month @ a time, in order to be free from a child? No one will take him. CPS guaranteed us that if we sent him to the local boy's home, he'd be more damaged coming out than he went in. How horrible!! I don't want him hurt. I don't want him to feel like I hate him. I know he's sick. I don't understand what's sick, and what's just... intentionally bad, I guess. How does one differentiate? How does a person forgive, and why? I'm so tired of being angry and scared and doubting myself. Almost forgot, I've been in a women's shelter. Some of the most horrifying days of my life. I would not take my daughters there. Thank you again for your backup and supportive encouragements. It is truly appreciated. [/QUOTE]
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