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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 277061" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>I have dealt with this with my own kids and I never had siblings so I didnt deal with it growing up, thank heavens for small favors...but I had a good friend that I went through this situation with a few years ago.</p><p></p><p>My friend was in a blended family and her oldest son molested her husband's youngest daughter. I believe the molestation started almost immediately upon their marriage and continued for a few years. I think from ages maybe 11 to 14? The little girl was about 3 to 7 I think. The boy was definitely "somewhat" abused emotionally by a boyfriend of his grandmother growing up because this man showed the boys porn and gave them alcohol and he also raped their older sister. So life wasnt hunky dory for my friends kids. But...no reason for her son to molest his step sister.</p><p></p><p>Well when it came out that this boy had molested his step sister all heck broke loose. The little girl just one day told in a therapy session. The cops were called, CPS was called and my friend was told her 14 year old son could no longer be in the home with any of the other younger kids. This was difficult because there were 5 younger kids! All together my friend and her husband had 7 kids! There was some iffy allegations as to whether or not the next younger son had done anything but he was 2 years younger than the older boy and the ages were kind of hard to imagine and the little girl couldnt be very specific so they just made them put up alarms on all doors with him. </p><p></p><p>They were very confused as to what was going to happen with this boy...were charges going to be filed, where they going to send him to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) that dealt with this sort of thing..what was going to happen. One thing was definite, she couldnt live at home with him and she was in limbo with him in a camper and this couldnt go on for long. She lived halfway across the country from me. What we ended up doing was getting permission from her state to send him to me because I didnt have any girls and my youngest child was 2 years older than this boy. I also live in the boonies and had 3 quite large sons and a large husband who could handle this boy. He was here for about 3 months. In that time we treated him like our own. I got him started in counseling and all that. But he was still a difficult child. I found magazines on incest that I have no idea where he got them. We tried desperately to discuss this stuff with him but it was like talking to a wall. </p><p></p><p>They ended up not prosecuting him and just sending him to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for juvy sex offenders. I dont think it was long enough to really help. Supposedly he never tried again but who knows. He is grown now. I lost touch with my friend.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 277061, member: 1514"] I have dealt with this with my own kids and I never had siblings so I didnt deal with it growing up, thank heavens for small favors...but I had a good friend that I went through this situation with a few years ago. My friend was in a blended family and her oldest son molested her husband's youngest daughter. I believe the molestation started almost immediately upon their marriage and continued for a few years. I think from ages maybe 11 to 14? The little girl was about 3 to 7 I think. The boy was definitely "somewhat" abused emotionally by a boyfriend of his grandmother growing up because this man showed the boys porn and gave them alcohol and he also raped their older sister. So life wasnt hunky dory for my friends kids. But...no reason for her son to molest his step sister. Well when it came out that this boy had molested his step sister all heck broke loose. The little girl just one day told in a therapy session. The cops were called, CPS was called and my friend was told her 14 year old son could no longer be in the home with any of the other younger kids. This was difficult because there were 5 younger kids! All together my friend and her husband had 7 kids! There was some iffy allegations as to whether or not the next younger son had done anything but he was 2 years younger than the older boy and the ages were kind of hard to imagine and the little girl couldnt be very specific so they just made them put up alarms on all doors with him. They were very confused as to what was going to happen with this boy...were charges going to be filed, where they going to send him to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) that dealt with this sort of thing..what was going to happen. One thing was definite, she couldnt live at home with him and she was in limbo with him in a camper and this couldnt go on for long. She lived halfway across the country from me. What we ended up doing was getting permission from her state to send him to me because I didnt have any girls and my youngest child was 2 years older than this boy. I also live in the boonies and had 3 quite large sons and a large husband who could handle this boy. He was here for about 3 months. In that time we treated him like our own. I got him started in counseling and all that. But he was still a difficult child. I found magazines on incest that I have no idea where he got them. We tried desperately to discuss this stuff with him but it was like talking to a wall. They ended up not prosecuting him and just sending him to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for juvy sex offenders. I dont think it was long enough to really help. Supposedly he never tried again but who knows. He is grown now. I lost touch with my friend. [/QUOTE]
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