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When is total detachment the right thing to do?
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 618035" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>One thing I learned is that when they call with a request or demand or they want something..............say, "I'll get back to you." That gives you a break from the dramatic moment where they are sending you the clear message that <strong>YOU</strong> NEED TO DO SOMETHING. <strong>YOU </strong>don't need to do anything. If you can create some distance between you and that moment, your brain will recalibrate out of the FOG and you can think clearly in a minute or two. Then it may be good to write a post here or call a friend or do something that will interrupt that moment where you weaken against their manipulation. Once you get your strength back, you can say, "that doesn't work for me." You don't need to supply explanations or justifications. NO is enough. NO is a full sentence. NO.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 618035, member: 13542"] One thing I learned is that when they call with a request or demand or they want something..............say, "I'll get back to you." That gives you a break from the dramatic moment where they are sending you the clear message that [B]YOU[/B] NEED TO DO SOMETHING. [B]YOU [/B]don't need to do anything. If you can create some distance between you and that moment, your brain will recalibrate out of the FOG and you can think clearly in a minute or two. Then it may be good to write a post here or call a friend or do something that will interrupt that moment where you weaken against their manipulation. Once you get your strength back, you can say, "that doesn't work for me." You don't need to supply explanations or justifications. NO is enough. NO is a full sentence. NO. [/QUOTE]
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