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When is total detachment the right thing to do?
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 618043" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>What you said, recoveringenabler. X20.</p><p></p><p>To wait is a beautiful, extremely hard thing to do. But so life-giving to us and to the difficult child. </p><p></p><p>They call and it's always right now I need.</p><p></p><p>When I used to see my precious difficult child's name flash up on the phone (back when he had a phone), my stomach would knot up. And of course I would answer because one of the rules of motherhood is that you always answer the phone when your child calls. </p><p></p><p>Then one day someone said why don't you let it go to voice mail? </p><p></p><p>Wow.</p><p></p><p>That was so huge. Then I could call back when I was ready and my resources were marshaled.</p><p></p><p>Then he had no phone and began texting to my phone from his laptop. Who ever knew you could do that? Mr. Resourceful. </p><p></p><p>Then there was no escape except to ignore. Then he ramped up with the constant texting, relentless. </p><p></p><p>I have learned a lot about waiting and okay, ignoring. Going about my day anyway.</p><p></p><p>Drug addicts are amazingly resilient. They are survivors. Of course bad things can always happen but in general this is true. </p><p></p><p>Learn how to wait. And hang in there. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Sent from my iPhone using ConductDisorders</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 618043, member: 17542"] What you said, recoveringenabler. X20. To wait is a beautiful, extremely hard thing to do. But so life-giving to us and to the difficult child. They call and it's always right now I need. When I used to see my precious difficult child's name flash up on the phone (back when he had a phone), my stomach would knot up. And of course I would answer because one of the rules of motherhood is that you always answer the phone when your child calls. Then one day someone said why don't you let it go to voice mail? Wow. That was so huge. Then I could call back when I was ready and my resources were marshaled. Then he had no phone and began texting to my phone from his laptop. Who ever knew you could do that? Mr. Resourceful. Then there was no escape except to ignore. Then he ramped up with the constant texting, relentless. I have learned a lot about waiting and okay, ignoring. Going about my day anyway. Drug addicts are amazingly resilient. They are survivors. Of course bad things can always happen but in general this is true. Learn how to wait. And hang in there. Sent from my iPhone using ConductDisorders [/QUOTE]
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