when relatives don't want your kids near their kids...

[amazeofgrace]

i also understand, it would seem my inlaws aren't too eager to have difficult child II over, or difficult child I for that matter, however I they've joined in with S2BX's theory "it's all her and the kids fault, he's in the shape he's in"

 

[Pookybear66]

I'm in bran's boat on this one. I think it terribly rude to say/think that his children will be adversely affected by what your children do/don't do. I thought maybe I missed something like they trashed his house or something directly to him. I think he is using the "possible" as an excuse for not facing the facts. He has neice/nephew who are "not perfect" and if he had the b*lls to look in the mirror he would realize he is not either.

I cannot stand people who are not tolerant of other people's differences. If it were me I would avoid the party or tell him (bluntly) how I felt. While your children should be on their best behavior however possible that is, they should not be made to feel like outcasts because they are different.