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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 653680" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>We are here together now, and so, have the opportunity to share what we know and heal.</p><p></p><p>Isn't that an amazing thing!</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>We are thousands of miles away from our children, too. Nowhere near as exotic as Greece or France. That is primary cool. Good for you and I say, go for it. Sooner the better. Just don't even think too much about any of it. You can figure it all out later.</p><p></p><p>It won't just be the physical distance. It is that being in a new place ~ even if it isn't thousands of miles away ~ means you reconstruct a life that is not child, family, or grandchild centered.</p><p></p><p>And you become your own, again.</p><p></p><p>It's hard at first, though.</p><p></p><p>One of the things that helped me was understanding that I had never had those things I felt such fierce nostalgia for.</p><p></p><p>It was a strange thing, to realize that.</p><p></p><p>I wanted so much to have family around me that I got twisted up inside, somehow.</p><p></p><p>Better, now.</p><p></p><p>Still healing from it, though.</p><p></p><p>You can do this, Billie.</p><p></p><p>The hardest part is seeing how things really are. I still get a nasty shock over so much of it. But it is what it is, so that's okay too.</p><p></p><p>At least this time, the shocks are my own.</p><p></p><p>I'm beginning to see all the manipulations, and it really makes me gnash my teeth.</p><p></p><p>Grrrr....</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p>Grrr like something dangerous. Like a black lion. </p><p></p><p>Ha!!!</p><p></p><p>I love the way I think, sometimes.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>I will have to change my name to Cedar With the Big Sharp Teeth and black nose hairs.</p><p></p><p>And my pirate skirt, of course.</p><p></p><p>Good to go, now.</p><p></p><p>F you, mom.</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/mcsmiley1.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":mcsmiley1:" title="mcsmiley1 :mcsmiley1:" data-shortname=":mcsmiley1:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 653680, member: 17461"] We are here together now, and so, have the opportunity to share what we know and heal. Isn't that an amazing thing! :O) We are thousands of miles away from our children, too. Nowhere near as exotic as Greece or France. That is primary cool. Good for you and I say, go for it. Sooner the better. Just don't even think too much about any of it. You can figure it all out later. It won't just be the physical distance. It is that being in a new place ~ even if it isn't thousands of miles away ~ means you reconstruct a life that is not child, family, or grandchild centered. And you become your own, again. It's hard at first, though. One of the things that helped me was understanding that I had never had those things I felt such fierce nostalgia for. It was a strange thing, to realize that. I wanted so much to have family around me that I got twisted up inside, somehow. Better, now. Still healing from it, though. You can do this, Billie. The hardest part is seeing how things really are. I still get a nasty shock over so much of it. But it is what it is, so that's okay too. At least this time, the shocks are my own. I'm beginning to see all the manipulations, and it really makes me gnash my teeth. Grrrr.... Cedar Grrr like something dangerous. Like a black lion. Ha!!! I love the way I think, sometimes. :O) I will have to change my name to Cedar With the Big Sharp Teeth and black nose hairs. And my pirate skirt, of course. Good to go, now. F you, mom. :mcsmiley1: [/QUOTE]
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